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Challenge from my Psychologist. Write down 3 positive things a day. Join me?

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fuzzpig Thu 05-Sep-13 20:10:16

Background in brief - history of abuse and lengthy depression, self harm, lots of therapy in teens inc psych ward stay. Now suffering from CFS (also known as ME) and having CBT as part of the treatment.

So, we were talking about low self esteem, negative inner voice etc, and she suggested doing this to gradually build up evidence against these thoughts. I've done similar briefly in the past but having done a lot of psychological 'inner work' this year I feel ready to make it stick and I thought doing a thread on it would make me more likely to bother!

I'm off to watch telly with DH in a mo (Big Bang Theory 6 arrived yesterday grin) so won't be back til tomorrow but if anyone wants to do this with me then jump in! Could be stuff you've achieved, nice things that have happened etc.

Mine are:

- Had my consultation over the phone for the first time - was worried it'd feel weird but I stuck with it and found it really helpful.

- Contacted a friend to arrange a meet up while he's visiting home (I hardly ever initiate anything like that)

- Wrote in my treatment journal the same day as my session, instead of leaving it for weeks!

smile

MajesticWhine Tue 10-Sep-13 21:59:45

Here are mine for today.

- Had loads of incidental exercise by cycling everywhere today.
- 3 x DC all seem to be happy at school.
- Cooked the same evening meal for everyone in the family (rather than 2 or 3 different things) - a bit of a goal of mine but rarely seem to achieve it.

BeaWheesht Tue 10-Sep-13 22:03:43

1/ got ds a bargainous Christmas present
2/ Dh got a better than expected work bonus
3/ the cat is currently sitting on my lap purring

ecofreckle Tue 10-Sep-13 22:51:34

Fuzz I loved etre et avoir!
Going to bed more thrilling now autumn is In the air: I want cuddles and I love listening to the wind howl.
Dd had an epic nap so I got more work than anticipated done.
PRe bed play time and bath were full of smiles not tears tonight.
Three positive things and it was chucking down with rain all day!

Empross76 Tue 10-Sep-13 22:57:05

Great idea. I'm doing CBT at the moment too. And I recognise some names here from other threads.

Okay, ignoring all the not-so-good things today, my positives are:

Managed the school run.

Met my friend and had a lovely catch up.

Did a couple of household chores that needed doing.

Yay! - go me!!!

Three things for the last day:

1 - I motivated myself to go to the gym. It was shut, but still...

2 - I have got on with my knitting.

3 - Two days on the trot, I have got up before 8.30am.

spanky2 Wed 11-Sep-13 12:03:17

Yesterday .
I avoided treading on the lavish spread of dog poo on the pavement on school run .
I did all the ironing and put it away .
Found out that all the extra work ds1has done with me after school has made a difference rather than being 3 years behind is now reading at his age!

1 Went for a walk with lovely friend
2 DD went in to school perfectly, no upset for the first time in over a year !!!!!!!
3 picked up a bargain tent for my dbro

fuzzpig Wed 11-Sep-13 20:45:24

It's so lovely reading everyone's positive events and achievements! Well done to all smile

Mine are:

- managed to talk to my friend at work about the above mentioned disappointing BFN, it was nice to say all of it out loud and have a hug

- asked DH to meet me from work and we had milkshakes before getting the bus home in time for DH to pick up the DCs

- we decided to go tv-free mon-thurs once term started, and DD has whined about it, but didn't today - we all played a board game together after dinner, it was perfect and exactly what I wanted our evening to be like smile

Empross76 Wed 11-Sep-13 22:25:21

Quiet today - where is everybody?!

Not had the best day all in all, so wracking my brains a bit to come up with three, but...

Had good CBT session, all felt v useful.

Kids were lovely today, no tantrums or bad behaviour.

Got a few little jobs done.

BeaWheesht Wed 11-Sep-13 23:11:21

Hi all. Fuzz pig I'm massively impressed by no TV!

I 'won' a little thing for dd's birthday on eBay.

My mum loved the photos I sent her of the kids.

We booked our holiday for next year.

whodunnit Wed 11-Sep-13 23:15:55

cooked a lovely healthy meal for the kids in 40 mins and they loved it.

cycled home in the dark in the rain with my daughter

saw the Red Arrows fly over our town

ecofreckle Thu 12-Sep-13 00:55:22

I too like the tv free idea fuzz!
I did seven hours of work in threelocations with baby in tow.
Some of my Christmas bargains arrived <waves magpie mug at Bea>
Didn't mind that it was dark when put dd to bed. Well, not too much anyway!

Took stairs up at work - 5th floor
Got.a complimented on my hair style - 2nd time this week
Colleagues at work said they would help me later when I was looking confused during training for some software.

Doesn't sound like much but am just regaining my faith in how lovely people can be.

ecofreckle Thu 12-Sep-13 19:39:53

Sounds like lots of good Herbert!
I solved a DIY problem.
I kept my cool during frustrating conversation with my dad.
I have already packed mine and Dd's bags for tomorrow.
You about fuzz?

fuzzpig Thu 12-Sep-13 19:40:47

I have had a really lovely day today smile

- took a quick peep at a charity table sale before my OT appt at St Barts - there was virtually nothing there but I found a perfect stocking filler for my DS - a Thunderbirds mug grin so happy to find it I even phoned DH blush

- had a really fruitful appt with my OT, talking about the next 10 weeks which are scarily hectic. I feel quite positive and also was reminded how far I have come since this time last year (when DH had major surgery) smile

- met mum after the appt and she showed me some of her old haunts, we also saw some awesome views from the new mall by St Pauls and a restaurant in the Shard. Feel totally spoiled I may have also visited Hotel Chocolat grin

fuzzpig Thu 12-Sep-13 19:49:05

BTW thanks for the comments about the TV thing. I have been umming and ahhing about it for a while but finally agreed that the new term was a good time to make the change. It isn't TV exactly but DVDs, they are our major weakness and there was usually something on all evening and lots at weekends too. It is amazing how quickly they have adapted to not having it mon-thurs - I expected a lot more complaints. Seem to be spending a lot more time scrabbling around for board game pieces though grin

grin Hotel Chocolat. Haven't been there in ages... need to find an excuse to go to certain shopping centre...

1 Started work on redec the bedroom despite feeling a bit headachy and throaty

2 got all wall washing, sanding and filling done so have 2 full days to paint

3 did dcs bedtime and only got a bit cross wink progress for me!

Empross76 Thu 12-Sep-13 22:50:47

Not the best day again, but:

Made plans to see a friend tomorrow.

Watched a film I've been meaning to watch for ages.

Can't think of a third. hmm

BeaWheesht Thu 12-Sep-13 23:37:40

Got some presents wrapped up for dd

Had coffee with friends

Ds got a prize at school

I was organised today, and cooked the bolognese for tonight's supper this morning.

I've done some knitting today.

Sorry - I can't think of a third. sad

flossymuldoon Fri 13-Sep-13 08:21:12

What a lovely idea!

Feeling a little better about everything as I have been to the drs and taken the first step

I have booked an appointment with counseller

Today I get to spend the afternoon at the park with my lovely DS

Got more painting done

Let kids help without me getting irritable

Dh home after a positive day

fuzzpig Fri 13-Sep-13 20:29:51

Empross and SDTG- your third could be "came to post on this thread despite not having a third thing" <paradoxical> grin

mine are:

- managed both school runs with a bit of jigging around - find it pretty hard physically so always fills me with dread!

- talked to my friend at work and suggested a future lunch date (never seen her outside work before so a big deal for me to take the step of asking) smile

- finally got around to retyping all my old poems so I can print them out (a friend asked if she could read them... eeeeek!)

fuzzpig Fri 13-Sep-13 20:31:18

(seriously though... if you can't think of a third, if it's been a rough day - I think just 'I got through the day' can be pretty darn positive! smile)

BushCricket Fri 13-Sep-13 20:42:03

Tidied kitchen, cooked nice dinner
Went to DD's assembly (work was cancelled) and she was so pleased
Wrote a letter I needed to do

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