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Challenge from my Psychologist. Write down 3 positive things a day. Join me?

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fuzzpig Thu 05-Sep-13 20:10:16

Background in brief - history of abuse and lengthy depression, self harm, lots of therapy in teens inc psych ward stay. Now suffering from CFS (also known as ME) and having CBT as part of the treatment.

So, we were talking about low self esteem, negative inner voice etc, and she suggested doing this to gradually build up evidence against these thoughts. I've done similar briefly in the past but having done a lot of psychological 'inner work' this year I feel ready to make it stick and I thought doing a thread on it would make me more likely to bother!

I'm off to watch telly with DH in a mo (Big Bang Theory 6 arrived yesterday grin) so won't be back til tomorrow but if anyone wants to do this with me then jump in! Could be stuff you've achieved, nice things that have happened etc.

Mine are:

- Had my consultation over the phone for the first time - was worried it'd feel weird but I stuck with it and found it really helpful.

- Contacted a friend to arrange a meet up while he's visiting home (I hardly ever initiate anything like that)

- Wrote in my treatment journal the same day as my session, instead of leaving it for weeks!

smile

hello everyone

ok.
lovely lunch with friends
nice tea with neighbours
just made the brandy butter fsmile

BigBirthdayGloom Tue 24-Dec-13 06:56:15

Finished wrapping presents and was pleased the dc had enough-although I know if I found myself in a shop today I'd buy the dc all a onesie! So have sent dh.

My dsis is coming for Christmas!!!! Thought she was working.

House is under control with no major panic needed.

BigBirthdayGloom Tue 24-Dec-13 22:34:54

Decorated Christmas cake with dc and dh was a picture making his snowman!

Neighbours popped in unannounced and the dc all played beautifully together

Feeling relaxed about Christmas Day, despite fact my parents are coming and have asked to stay overnight (b and b) so they can have Boxing Day morning too.

BigBirthdayGloom Tue 24-Dec-13 22:36:11

Sorry-looks as if I had two goes today-the first was yesterday's! Merry Christmas.

Happy Christmas everyone x

ok
managed to ice cake despite icing disaster and exploding hand mixer!!!
nice eve wrapping pressies and drinking wine
kids so excited today - all day - fgrin fgrin fgrin

iMe Wed 25-Dec-13 06:56:16

hello everyone and I hope you all have a very happy Christmas! thank you to everyone for the support on here. x

BigBirthdayGloom Wed 25-Dec-13 19:43:04

Merry Christmas!

Our dc were squealingly excited about the eBay gifts we bought them and lovely to each other

My dsis came for Christmas and I haven't spent Christmas Day with her for twenty years as she had fallen out with my mum (she had reasons and I struggle with my mother too). It was lovely.

Managed to be calm despite dd2 waking up at 3am!!!! Couldn't take he down as we usually would because Santa had been!

iMe Mon 06-Jan-14 17:45:08

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iMe Sun 12-Jan-14 19:50:17

hello? anyone still around? hoping everyone had a nice Christmas and happy new year to you all. Hope so far January blues haven't been too bad.
some ups and downs here over the past weeks, but here are some of my positives:
1. Santa was good to us.
2. we're all mostly recovered from the nasty bug
3. my procedure last week has not resulted in any nasty side effects yet
4. having more good days than bad, i'm feeling quite positive and determined to come off ADs in spring/summer this year, all being well.
5. I have some work starting and confident that I could have more if I want it and make myself available & manage to find reliable childcare

BB01 Wed 15-Jan-14 19:36:10

Just found this thread. Great idea OP and good to hear you're doing well. Anyone fancy reigniting this idea? Can't promise to do it every day but for a starter:

1)Did my plankuary challenge today without swearing once
2)Arranged to meet up with two potential new mum friends
3)Gave six-month-old DD some risotto and watched her in awe as she helped herself to a whole bowlful

iMe Wed 15-Jan-14 20:03:14

hi and welcome, BB. I was starting to feel a bit lonely here.
1. work went well I think
2. DH says the hole in our recent big purchase shock angry should be easily enough fixed.
3. DD being more cooperative and DS starting to sleep a bit better again after his illness.
4. looks promising for me getting an early night tonight.
5. coffee date with a friend to look forward to tomorrow.

BB01 Thu 16-Jan-14 19:11:27

Sounds good, iMe!

1) Called a friend who invited me round and went though didn't feel like it. Was really glad I went
2) Went for run though didn't feel like it. Really enjoyed it (see a pattern here?!)
3) Had nice walk with DD

Is it 3 things we list or just how every many we think of?

iMe Fri 17-Jan-14 23:10:02

hi again
well, it started off as three things. sometimes I break the rules and write more. On a really bad day, sometimes it can be difficult to think of even one or two positive things. To aim for 3, I think, is good, because in depression we tend to dwell on the negatives. Sometimes I hadn't thought of more than one thing, until I have to really rack my brains to come up with more for the purpose of this thread, so once I've come up with three I go away with a more positive mindset. 3 positives when one is depressed is maybe just a more realistic number. I hope that makes sense?!
so sorry for going over the 3 sometimes.., I feel I'm on the up now, so am finding more and more positives each day. I read a quote once that I've never forgotten: "happiness is infectious so lets start an epidemic".... I'm hoping that all my positives will help spread the joy.... but maybe hearing me so chirpy on this thread will make others who are really down just feel worse? I don't know. Maybe it's time for me to move on now? But this thread really helped me and I think it should be kept going. Where is everyone else, anyway? I hope they are ok. Ok, I'm waffling, Sorry.blush
Anyway...
1. got more work potential
2. baked a cake
3. had a lovely relaxing bath.

BB01 Sat 18-Jan-14 18:20:18

Hi iMe, that all makes sense. I'm glad you are feeling it's easier to get to 3 or more nowadays! Don't apologise for going over! Was just wondering how this thread started out. I think it's great you're still here, giving others hope that it can get better. I wouldn't say I'm in an awful place atm but definitely have days where I feel everything's going wrong.

OK, six for today and yesterday :
1) Had lovely day out with DH, DD and friends
2) Met new baby friend and got on well
3) My friend seemed to like the birthday present I bought her
4) Got DD to sleep in the pushchair (a new occurrence!)
5)Had my fave food ever (thin crust pizza)
6) Realised my stomach seems smaller after cutting out lots of the fatty stuff I was scoffing before

BB01 Sat 18-Jan-14 18:21:21

Hmm number 5 and 6 seem slightly hypocritical but I stand by them!

iMe Thu 23-Jan-14 19:46:31

1. working going well.
2. no headache today.
3. house is tidy.

BB01 Sat 25-Jan-14 11:09:06

Yesterday's :
1)DD slept in own room all night so we all caught up on some sleep
2)DH didn't have to go out in the evening so I got help getting DD to sleep
3)Made some homemade pesto which was yummy

iMe Sat 01-Feb-14 21:46:47

1 lovely day with friends
2 kids well behaved while out
3 got chores done tonight so feeling prepared and on top of things for the week ahead smile

BigBirthdayGloom Sat 01-Feb-14 22:31:10

Hello! Been AWOL for a while-think I've been really better so perhaps living a bit. But I think it's good that I get back in the habit of doing this-it would be do easy to slip back into negative thought patterns.

1) had fab evening with friends last night wearing a very cute dress that was braver than I'd normally wear. I'm starting to care how I look.

2) two lovely coffee and cake sessions today with different combinations of my 3dc, something I would have dreaded a few months ago.

3) teaching went well this week. Managing to keep up with planning and marking.

altogetherwonderful Sat 01-Feb-14 22:33:33

Marking place great thread thanks Fuzzpig. Maybe I'll post 3 things soon. Hopefully.

DCRBye Mon 03-Feb-14 11:05:53

1. I've lost some weight!

2. My family are great

3. I am doing well at work

Great thread, will try and post every day

BigBirthdayGloom Mon 03-Feb-14 18:34:34

Have made decision to have no spend week.

Ds had third easy bedtime in a row

Home cooked dinner

BB01 Tue 04-Feb-14 22:10:03

Some great ones there! Today's three

1) Had a lovely time meeting with Mumsnet friends
3) DD entertained whole carriage on train
3)Got DD to bed nice and early

BigBirthdayGloom Wed 05-Feb-14 00:45:01

Evening!
Lovely bedtime with ds again reading brilliant knight stories.
Nice evening with friend
Managed to avoid unnecessary spending today which made me feel good as I've been doing a lot of emotional spending lately.

iMe Wed 05-Feb-14 22:06:11

1. supportive family
2, dd better
3. feeling in control at work

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