Have namechanged so I can stay anonymous.
I'm just really lost and feel so confused about my life and wondered if anyone could help. I'm 24, graduated from a degree course last July but haven't done my dissertation yet, so haven't got a final grade. I deferred for health reasons as I have depression/anxiety and really struggled meeting deadlines. I got really behind in essays during my third year, and had to keep delaying deadlines because I got so panicked and couldn't do anything. I had panic attacks, couldn't focus and was so scared. The first time it happened I was sat in the library and got really stuck on an essay, started crying, couldn't breathe, ran home and didn't know what was wrong with me. This has happened again and again with essays etc after that. For example, a big 6000 word essay that was meant to be in in February got handed in in May. I got myself so worked up on my dissertation I hardly did any work on it in my third year, and as it got nearer the deadline I panicked more and more and couldn't do anything..I felt frozen every time I thought about it. So it's now nearly a year after my dissertation was due, and I'm still getting extension after extension because I can't make myself work. I get panic attacks, I have no motivation whatsoever and I just feel so stupid. When I do work on it and try to write, I get panicked and stop within a very short space of time. I just avoid it so I don't have to feel the panic, which is really bad and landed me in this mess. I've been diagnosed with depression, which was on/off throughout university (felt suicidal at points and self harmed a few times).
I'm back living with my parents which makes everything worse, as I feel so claustrophobic and like a child again. My childhood here wasn't very good, so I guess I feel completely out of control with no independence. I live every day numb and full of self hatred - so many people do their stupid dissertation, it's not that hard. I spend every day trying to distract myself, but I often fail to get dressed/showered/do anything meaningful. I feel so worthless. Before this all happened I'd had really successful internships and contacts and was well on the way to getting a job. Now it's going to be really awkward explaining to prospective employers what I did for a whole year and why I didn't just do it. I feel like such a failure and that it's going to be like this forever. Nothing has moved forward.
I just wondered if anyone had gone through anything similar, or if anyone could offer me any support generally. Or tell me to just get on with it and stop being so pathetic. That's what I tell myself every day though and it's not working. Thanks for reading anyway, I'm sorry it was so long.
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Really lost and need some advice
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annabel1234 · 14/06/2013 23:14
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