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This is our Village, People! Need support? - Move In Here....

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ThatVikRinA22 Fri 07-Jun-13 19:19:23

My Friends... theres no need to feel down
i said My Friends..Pick yourself off the ground
i said My Friends, cause youre in a new town
theres no need to be unhappy....

Our new thread folks (number 5!!).....i need to dash as im on nights but i will be back!
love to all. xxx

SnowyMouse Fri 07-Jun-13 19:31:54

Good luck for your shift.

LEMisdisappointed Fri 07-Jun-13 20:13:08

ahahahaahaaa smile Thats Brilliant Vicar - have a good shift!

Thanks vicar your titles are fab grin

Basset that was an epic post at the end of Thread 4 - and thanks. Today has been weird. I have got stuff done (bought dress for DD communion - this one), sorted couple bits at home. But general high anxiety has stayed the same all day, completely wound up, which puts a questionmark next to my cortisol theory. I should probably do some yoga or something but I'm too tired/lazy now.

knitted sorry to hear your DH is being useless. Can't remember if you've pointed him in the direction of any pages about living with someone with mental health probs on Mind/Depression Alliance website? Hope you're OK this evening.

snowy more flowers here, pink aquileja from my garden.

Just marking place.

Im hot. Sweaty. Sunburnt. And need to catch up.

Think I'll take a glass of wine to bed and read about what everyone else is up to

bassetfeet Fri 07-Jun-13 21:31:39

Hi Ed glass of wine and bed sounds good to me x

CIQ a lovely dress and thanks for sharing . Nice clothes from there . Love to look online. So chic and classy. What accessories will you use ?
I loved the one Snowy bought a week or so back also . Monsoon?
You will look fabulous .

www.tribal-earth.com/viewitem.php?cat=Clothes&subcat=Skirts&item=Teale+Patchwork+Skirt

This is my yearly treat clothes wise . Got tee shirt from M@S to match
IF i have to scrub up this is it . elasticated waist and heel length .
Must make sure I dont tuck skirt into knickers though if drinking or vague /panicking .

Nice distraction clothes and such .xx

Goid evening.

I'm not going to try and remember everything cos I can't scroll back.

Just remember it can be tough for our OHs. I don't have on OH but I know my best friend, whilst having the most knowledge of my emotional welfare and associated physical manefestations. But she still doesn't 'get' it and it frustrates the hell out of me at times.

I just think it is really hard for someone that hasn't been here to understand that because of this illness which may have no physical symptoms visible to others. ..sometimes we physically can't get off the sofa or out of bed etc. A year ago I probably wouldn't have believed it myself.

ciq do you know what's causing your anxiety? I know my anxiety scores are high at the moment. I know I have a lot of the physical manefestations, but emotionally I don't 'feel' anxious so I don't know what's causing it.

bassett I really didn't picture you as the sort of person wearing that skirt...I can, however see you in the dress snowy linked.

Right. Quick resume of my day

Nauseous. Sleepy. Shakey this morning so napped.
Had a shower
Wore my favourite summer maxidress with a nice cleavage bra (after beinv intervened).
Bonus points for make up
Bonus points for necklace
Sat in the sun for 2 1/2 hours watching dd3s may carnival. Forgot the sunblock. My cheekbones are very red...my makeup clearly lies when it says its spf25
My cleavage bra has left me with a white stripe between my boobs
My necklace has left me with a white ring around my neckline.

I'm thoroughly fried.

I have picked up 2 carrier bags of rubbish from the lounge.
Chinese for tea. All the plates are still in the kitchen. Will be grim in the morning.
Ive done a load of washing but its still in the machine.
Ive hung out a load of washing but its still on the line.

Mixed day really.

Now...hugs are offered to all...I think might finally be lurgy free...just spit roasted!

knittedslippersx3 Fri 07-Jun-13 22:25:30

Just signing into new thread.
Not had time to catch up on posts and post confused!
Will spend time tomorrow reading and writing, but for now good night my lovelies. Thank you for all your kind words, promise to be more specific tomorrow but now off to bed. Hope your shift passes quickly vicar

Hi basset great skirt - lovely colours and smiling at skirt in knickers grin Thanks for feedback on dress. I have a lovely bright pink Cardi, some smart Black wedge sandals so think I will get some pink nail varnish for toes. I tried it on and lovely ds said I looked beautiful smile

ed Chinese yum. Sunburn sounds ouchy hope you've got a nice moisturiser!

I don't know what's causing the anxiety. I wasn't great after half term. I am having great difficulty relating to dh, we haven't talked much this much this week cos I seem to be irritated by pretty much everything he says sad. I don't feel like I'm worried about a particular thing but have constant tension, tight chest, bit breathless, stomach in knots and brain agitated and a bit spaced. Any ideas/suggestions?!

Hope everyone else is doing ok x

bassetfeet Fri 07-Jun-13 22:52:37

And now that everything had turned chaotic, turbulent, and fearsome, now that I had felt the ground shifting beneath my feet and could no longer trust my own body to carry me blithely from one day to the next, there was at least this solace of the familiar. The house was my refuge, my safe place. The illness and its treatments were strange and unpredictable; home was everything I knew and understood.

This will pass I hope CIQ .......both of you worrying . No wonder communication is hard and your knot in tummy wont leave . I hate it for you so much . Just keep the cuddles or physical stuff going if words are too hard if you can . An arm stroke .not the whole whammy .

the quote above I love . You will recover .

Thanks so much basset.
Sleep well x

HellesBelles396 Sat 08-Jun-13 08:36:56

Just checking into tge village.

Love that dress CIQ

Can I have the house on the corner with the nice plum tree in the garden.

I will bake nice cakes with them

<back to reality....im still in bed...child free weekend here....>

LEMisdisappointed Sat 08-Jun-13 11:31:27

Can I live next door to Ed? I should just like to point out that all the fences will be dry walls - there will be NO picket fences in the village (i have a weird phobia of picket fences blush). I can make jam from the excess plums.

Will there be coffee mornings? and village fetes where we are all slightly squiffy from too much pims??

I mean, why wouldn't anyone want to live here??? grin

Seriously, this thread, all of you - its brilliant, i can't explain it but its like a safe haven.

I can have a crochet and craft stall at the fete...

<still ignoring the fact i am in bed>

SnowyMouse Sat 08-Jun-13 12:38:56

Nice dresses/skirts! Sorry to hear about all hte anxiety symptoms sad

Bed sounds good Ed, I'm trying not to though.

bassetfeet Sat 08-Jun-13 12:50:03

I am loving the planning of the village grin. Want to draw it like Jilly Cooper does in her books .

We can have our fetes in Vicars paddock [cos she will have her horses].

Oh yes....vicar must live in the old farmhouse with stables and paddocks.

I think nana would quite like the 18th century cottage...

ciq must have a huge light filled conservatory for her painting.

lem I hope you have a study that overlooks the beautiful view...might motivate you to get your lab books out.

I'm having a huge hammock in my garden where I can lounge and crochet in the sun...

Do we need fences at all (other than for the paddock)...we are all sociable enough....

<still in bed! >

HellesBelles396 Sat 08-Jun-13 14:05:38

No fences - big communal garden with lots of seating. Small areas for pottering and a ride-on lawnmower for whoever feels up to sitting outside for an hour driving up and down

Oh I Love the sound of this place grin.

Thanks for the conservatory Ed I can picture it already smile. I'm not too fussy as long as the house is light and its the sunniest village in the UK. A little cottage garden patch and a hammock would be fab.

Lem I sooooo agree about this place. A refuge.

STOP PRESS

I am out of bed.

I've put some washing out.

I am properly dressed.

My blinds are open.

I'm just going to deal with my chinese rubbish and then head to the shops. I also have another mouse to release.

The garden definitely needs to be the focus of this village...drag us all out of our beds.

vicar will be impressed at the progress we have made on the village when she gets home grin

Oh and I forgot to mention...the cottage I have my eye on for nana has a basement with a big heavy padlock so we can lock the headmonster away...

Glabella Sat 08-Jun-13 14:38:17

Love the new thread, it reminds me of my daughters naming where I made a speech saying that it takes a village to raise a child, and our friends and family celebrating with us were our village. I think we all need a village to raise us up sometimes. I will try to be on the thread more, it is a great support and it is nice to talk to people who understand, the days seem to get away from me lately and suddenly a week has gone by. Me and dp would like a tiny house with a couple of acres, since there is no way I will get away with moving to a village without room for some horses.

LEM I loved your list, it made me smile and cry in equal measure but thanks so much for the kind words. thanks

Nana Thanks for the great advice, I am on citalopram, but have only been on it for 4 weeks so they won't think about changing or upping the dose for another few weeks, its pretty much a case of waiting it out. Around here resources for mental health are hugely stretched, specialist services don't really get involved in simple depression unless there are psychotic symptoms etc. It is so difficult, I have seen it with my own patients. I had actually started taking the tablets, took 4 before dp got home and I stopped and came to my senses, but scared myself. But apparently that isn't a serious attempt to need any more care other than GP visits every other week. hmm

Thanks for worrying about me. I have been up and down this week since Tuesday, felt sort of detached and numb so had a couple of ok days lying in the sun but yesterday and today have been very down again, struggling to do anything and feeling suicidal yet again, although dp has hidden all the tablets and won't leave me alone so I feel safer now. I keep endlessly reliving horrible things from my marriage, questioning things, driving myself crazy, they go round and round in my head until I just feel empty. Was up until 2am last night, ended up waking dp to cry into his shoulder and scream into a pillow. I suppose I just have to trust that this will pass, and in the meantime remember to breathe. I should remember, I have a tattoo of the word breathe on my ankle.
Positive news though, we have decided to go to Spain for a week on Wednesday, booked the flights yesterday! Family have pulled together to have dd at short notice and dp's family have a flat by the beach that is free, so off we go. I know it won't be a magic cure, but being depressed on a Spanish beach has to be better than doing it here.

bassetfeet Sat 08-Jun-13 14:40:07

If I remember well Nana has a garden room if it turns inclement .
We can gather there and have a sewing/knitting/crocheting bee like times of yore smile

Good on ya ED for being dressed and out of bed x

Helles grin to ride on mower . oh yes . Maybe with a sidecar for those of us feeling wobbly .

Well done Ed

Glabella sorry to hear you're having such a tough time at the moment. When's your next GP appointment? In my experience if you're not noticing any significant improvement after 6 weeks they will up the dose. You're spot on with the breathing - hope you manage to keep it up. Spain sounds loverly, and good timing as apparently we're due for rain where I live on Tue! I have bought some yellow freisa as a pre-emptive strike.

Quiet house. DH has taken DCs to his brothers/their cousins. I opted not to go. Tomorrow is pretty busy and it would be a fairly full on afternoon and evening. Does feel a bit weird though. I need to get off the sofa and so some stuff online and in the garden and tidy up the bombsite of the dining/kitchen table and washing...

P.S can someone have a heated pool at their house wink

xx to all

HellesBelles396 Sat 08-Jun-13 15:15:51

Not the way I would drive it - whomever was in the sidecar would be ill...

Defo on garden room - perhaps something else that should be communal. It could be used for crafting, chatting and generalised handholding or shoulder-proffering.

Back to reality, time to do the washing up sad

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