....What support from other people did you want or need?
I'm keeping this vague because I don't want to out myself, but I'm becoming rather concerned that a loved one is really struggling with her new DS and is at risk of PND. The problem is she keeps rejecting all offers of help (not just mine) and seems to be isolating herself - refusing all visits and invites, even from close family. I'm worried about her - we all are - but don't know what to do for the best.
I'm a fairly "confront things head on" person so my inclination is just to go round unannounced and insist on being allowed to help - whether by doing some cleaning/washing, or taking the baby for a while to give her a break, or babysitting so she and her DH get a break, or whatever - but I don't know if that would just make her feel worse, like I'd just decided she couldn't cope and needed me to step in.
I don't think that at all, btw. I just think the early days/weeks/months with a newborn can be bloody hard and we all need a break now and then. I would have cracked up without support
in the first few months with my DD - and she was one of the people who gave it to me.
Should I keep my distance and just continue to offer support even it's rejected? Or should I be more proactive? I genuinely don't know what to do for the best.
Originally posted this in Chat, hoping it'll get a response here.
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TheBookofRuth · 22/05/2013 20:28
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