Hi anyone, I have been feeling the same for so long now that it feels like my brain has become mush. I've been treated for depression since I was 16. First suicidal thoughts when I was 11. Tried every therapy going (startng with counselling, then CBT for years, last few years Cranio-Sacral therapy, EMDR, Somatic experiencing, art therapy, even hypnotherapy. Tried (not all but seemingly) every AD under the sun. Some don't work at all, some for maybe a week then back to the old feelings. I've read self-help books but always finish them and think, 'Ok, so now I know all that, but I don't feel any different'
I just feel my life is pointless. I know I have co-dependancy issues. I've been in 3 LTR (my first, when I was 16, was EA and DV so coloured my entire future feelings on relationships, the next two EA but I also was EA)
But basically I am having major worries now about my future work-wise. My first bf ripped up my UCAS form 'because I was gonna marry him and have babies)- R ended a year later (no marriage, no babies), I went straight into working at 19 as a waitress which I hated but it was money, then I worked as a shop assistant for 6 years. I was fine with this at the time although my area manager disliked me (and admittedly I didn't really apply myself as I simply didn't care much) so never got promoted.
I am lucky enough to have a great DP now and he has inspired me work-wise to want to have a career instead of jobs which I can't see myself doing when I'm 50, say, but having not been to Uni and not established myself anywhere I have found myself stuck in a circle of feeling useless as I have no skills, thinking I want to/should go to Uni as mature student, worrying I am not good enough at anything to start Uni, having no idea what I would even do at uni as I have never known what I wanted to do in life
I feel like I would be great at something, but have no idea what that something is. All my friends have seemed to have known, and studied it or just done what they loved and 'come across' jobs and worked their way up from there.
Partly (maybe?) because of my MH issues I have simply just not cared enough about anything to take it further. I don't think I want kids (which is another route some friends have taken) and it seems those are the only options in life, and I am just such a muddle. I feel anxious just looking at Uni websites. I also want to go travelling which I feel I am rapidly becoming too old to do (though I know people do it all ages)
I just feel like I always regret everything in hindsight and that I just can't trust myself to make any choices as it will be the wrong one. Sometimes I wonder if I have some sort of SN. Seriously wonder. But I've never been diagnosed so clearly not. It just feels like there is something blocking my brain from working properly, does anyone know what I mean?
People say I'm clever but I can't see it at all. How can I get past this?
Sorry this is so long. And if it sounds whiny and entitled. I just need help. My life just... I just want to be meaningful. To not be a nothing.
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So confused and anxious about my future, can't see forward? Sad sad face
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ladyjadie · 25/04/2013 10:59
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