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Never felt so alone

(45 Posts)
SaveWaterDrinkMalibu Wed 10-Apr-13 23:20:54

Bear with me - currently in tears

Have depression - have lost friends and OH. Feel like no one cares or wants to know me any more as I'm mentally ill

kizzie Thu 11-Apr-13 11:44:15

One of the most unfair things about depression etc is the fact that often you have to really fight for decent treatment (which of course is the last thing you feel able to do.)
But it is worth it and so are you - so dont give up and keep going back to GP until you get proper help. It might help to write down excatly how you are feeling and just give that to the GP.

In the meantime some of the things Ive done (none of them are miracle cure - but sometimes it helps to think of doing a basketful of different things - with each of them helping a little bit.)

- Tell yourself that you'll try and help yourself feel 10% better. It feels manageable - and anything is better than you are at the moment. It takes away the pressure of 'ive got to get better'

- Eat very regularly to keep blood sugar levels even. And reduce sugar.

- Get some fresh air every day

- Set a list of easy things to do each day. Nothing too taxing but just to give you a bit of structure.

- Set a 'worry time' for each day. So eg 5- 5.30. Then if you start to obsess over worries tell yourself 'Im not ignoring this but im not thinking about it now - im going to think about it a lot between 5 and 5.30'

- Some very easy craft/ reading etc to do to pass the time. Ive even done colouring in in the past - concentrating on staying in the lines - has taken my mind off the depression a little bit hmm blush

- Go to library and get a book on CBT techniques

Take Care

Catmint Thu 11-Apr-13 16:33:50

Yes, I agree with Kizzies list.

I got a colour your own advent calendar last year to help manage my anxiety. smile

Fresh air is always important in my recoveries, when it is cold I think about the cold scouring the depression away, when rainy I think about it washing it away. When sunny I think about it giving me energy.

I was recommended mood gym online to help. Sorry cant link on this.

Catmint Thu 11-Apr-13 16:37:56

Save, there is a mh thread in chat at the mo which might be of interest to you, beginning of title is Cba to name change...

marjproops Thu 11-Apr-13 16:46:52

sitting here on mn crying too. you are not alone. ive got 4 days till next counselling session and i feel like topping myself right now. only EVER hold on cos of DC.

and OP. you DO find out who your freinds are with depression.

i have 2. proper friends.

i used to know many but 2 friends in the whole world but even they cant help.

just want to make like a tortoise and hide in my shell. savewater like you in bed under the duvet.

you are not alone. thanks

Catmint Thu 11-Apr-13 19:50:00

You can come back from depression. I promise.

Catmint Fri 12-Apr-13 10:24:18

Save, just a reminder that you are not alone again today. X

SaveWaterDrinkMalibu Fri 12-Apr-13 19:58:06

Thank you all so much - it means lot.smilesmilesmile

Unfortunatelyanxious Fri 12-Apr-13 20:06:29

Take care, I hope that you can get some good help.

SaveWaterDrinkMalibu Fri 12-Apr-13 20:31:47

Thank you all so much - it means lot.smilesmilesmile

SaveWaterDrinkMalibu Fri 12-Apr-13 23:07:45

I want people to understand how I feel and why I can't deal with certain situations

Catmint Fri 12-Apr-13 23:40:35

I think the previous idea of writing it down is a good thought and will help you put across what you need to your gp.

If you have had self harm urges or suicidal thoughts you must tell gp.

Really sorry have no more practical advice except I know you can get through this tough time. And I am thinking of you.

SaveWaterDrinkMalibu Sat 13-Apr-13 00:24:15

Have managed to get GP appointment but not for another 9 days

Isabeller Sat 13-Apr-13 00:55:36

thinking of you x Is

Summer115 Sat 13-Apr-13 04:16:32

So many people care about you here. You are not alone.

Catmint Sat 13-Apr-13 15:27:39

9 days, you can get through 9 days.

Don't forget to breathe and be kind to yourself. Are you writing things down? Can you tempt yourself to eat a treat? Sorry to nag.

Have you managed to go outside? Sunny here this morning, we went to a farm to cuddle lambs. X

SaveWaterDrinkMalibu Sun 14-Apr-13 21:08:37

Sorry I haven't been back - it's been a good weekend gringringringrin

Catmint Sun 14-Apr-13 21:39:33

Hello Saved! I have been checking back for you. Very pleased to hear that you have had a good weekend. What have you enjoyed?

I had a great day yesterday, lamb cuddling. Today was a bit odd, helping a friend sort some stuff as she has recently left her husband. Then a food shop followed by drawing and cutting out fairies (badly!) for my daughter to stick into her novel. She is 6. She has written 1 sentence, which covered an entire page. grin

Catmint Sun 14-Apr-13 21:41:08

I have been on hol this week. Back to work tomorrow hmm I might not be able to check everyday. Job is quite demanding. Draining.

SaveWaterDrinkMalibu Sun 14-Apr-13 22:36:46

Been shopping with a close friend - huge step!grin
Met my snuggly newborn niece today

Catmint Tue 16-Apr-13 07:51:07

Off to London today and tomorrow.

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