Just feeling blue, and know writing it all down helps...

[Flamesparrow]

I should be happy. I have a lovely baby who sleeps and coos and is gorgeous, a toddler who is very sweet even if she is strong willed, and a loving husband. Money is gradually settling down, but i still feel all chaotic and swirly. :(

The house looks like sh*t and I never seem to get the time to get it sorted. It was fine 9 weeks ago, but there is no way I'd even let a midwife into the house now, let alone give birth in it!!

I'm tired most of the time, but not excessively so, I just can't seem to get the enthusiasm enough to get it sorted. I have 2 afternoons a week without DD, and instead of trying to get the house sorted, I end up collpased in a heap.

DH sort of tries, but not enough - his idea of "doing the kitchen" is to wash the dishes - ignore the leaves all over the floor from the back door, the dirty cooker...

DD is a whirlwind and empties every toy in the world out, and although she will help tidy, it is a battle (apart from her room which she seems to keep clear, but which doesn't bother me if its a state!).

I know she's only 3, but other people seem to manage to not have all the toys out.

I'm slimming down, which I should be pleased about, but as my bum and thighs might be slimming, I still have the huge flabby stomach hanging over my jeans.

I know it will all seem much brighter in a few days, but right now I just want the world to go away. (Oh, and someone to either take my babies for a week while I clean, or to pay for a cleaner!).

[sparklemagic]

sounds like hormones!! AS you know already I'm sure...just didn't want your post to be ignored.

And yes - you DO need a cleaner! We all do!!!!

[veNivIDiViCkiqV]

Everyone's three year olds have the toys out, but manage to hide then in a corner/behind the sofa etc for when people come round.

Dont worry about housework. It truly isnt the end of the world. You are looking after your two - thats all that is important atm.

If you dont feel much better in a few weeks i would consider seeing your HV/GP as you may be starting to develop PND.

x

[Nbg]

FS
You had your baby how many weeks ago?

You should have a saggy belly (do you really want to be like Katie Holmes? )

As for everything else, as annoying and frustrating it may be it's so normal and I'm sure it happens in every house.
You do right to put your feet up when your dd isn't there. I plan to do the exact same thing when dd starts pre school in Sept.

It will become easier eventually. Don't beat yourself up.

[morocco]

hugs

[Flamesparrow]

But if I was Katie Holmes I'd know all the secrets about Hubbard's sperm, and the ivf baby . I was sooo surprised when it was a girl... I'd convinced myself it was a clone .

Back to the blue though. Yup, tis all hormones. :) I've just had chocolate and force fed my baby so I could get all happy feedy hormones, and I'm feeling lots better. Replies have helped lots too (its strange how just someone sending hugs online can help).

I need to take my own advice . I remember emailing a friend when she was low after her baby, pointing out that it took about 6 months to start to feel like you've got the hang of this mum thing, so it should take at least 6 months to get the hang of being a mum of two.

[busybusybee]

Sorry you are feeling low Flamesparrow - Would it cheer you up to know I posted the nightgowns today - You might get them Wed, definitely thurs

I hope you feel better soon :)

[Nbg]

Awww bless you FS.

Your such a bubbly mnetter usually. Keep eating the chocs


(Didn't know about the Hubbard sperm thing! I think thats another thread)

[Flamesparrow]

Feeling much better today :) Parcel arriving soon does help - I love parcels

The hubbard sperm theory.... . I got a bit carried away with the consipracy theories!!