need some support

[wrinklytum]

Feeling exhausted.Have ds 2 and dd 5months.dp very unsupportive.Had huge bust up last week mainly over his drinking which has been getting out of hand.Has at last admitted he has a prob and has stopped for 5 days.I feel as if i am picking up the pieces and supporting everyone.DD doesnt sleep and catnaps during day,so am getting no rest.Have only just finished chores tonight.May be able to grab a few hours until dd wakes for next feed.Feel as if im on a treadmill and want to get off.Am still getting up and functioning but feel like a zombie,fed up of keeping it all together and being the strong one.Not sure if I have pnd or if its just exhaustion

[northender]

I am lucky to have a supportive dh but can relate to so much of what you're saying. When I spoke to my HV and subsequently GP I didn't know whether it was just tiredness but they were both really supportive and I started on prozac which has worked for me. All I can say is just get professional help. If you get on with your health visitor then they are probably the best starting point as they have more time for you than your GP generally. Your dd will start sleeping longer although it doesn't seem like it right now and things will get easier. Do you have family or friends locally who could help out?

[bramblina]

You must talk to your HV or dr, you cannot supprt everyone. Is the lo on solids yet, to help with the sleep? It may not be in the plan but sleep deprivation is really bad.

[milward]

Hope you're ok wrinklytum xxx best wishes

[wrinklytum]

thank you all who replied.yES DD IS ON SOLIDS NOW STARTED AT 4.5 MONTHS.WAS A BIG BABY 9LB PLUS AND HAS ALWAYS BEEN A RIGHT GUZZLER.CANT GET HER ON A BOTTLE EITHER.AM TAKING HER FOR VACS TODAY SO MAYBE ANOTHER CHAT WITH HV IS A GOOD IDEA HE HAS BEEN QUITE HELPUL SO FAR.DONT REALLY WANT TO GO DOWN AD ROUTE BUT FEEL IT MAY BE NECCESSARY.DIDNT KNOW IF ADS WERE ALLOWED WHILST BREASTFEEDING.DONT WANT TO FEEL LIKE THIS AS HAVE 2 GORGEOUS KIDS WHO DONT DESERVE A MISERABLE MUMMY.DP IS TRYING RE DRINKING HAVE TOLD HIM ILL LEAVE IF HE DOESNT STOP THE BOOZE,AS HIS KIDS DESERVE BETTER.SAYS HE DOESNT WANT THEM GROWING UP IN SINGLE PARENT FAMILY,WELL NEITHER DO I BUT CURRENTLY FEEL THIS WOULD BE BETTER THAN BEING WITH HIM.UNFORTUNATELY MY FAMILY LIVE AWAY.HAVE VERY GOOD FRIEND WHO HAS KEPT ME SANE BUT SHE HAS ENOUGH ON HER PLATE AT THE MO.SADLY MIL THOUGH NICE,THINKS SUN SHINES OUT OF SONS BEHIND AND INFERS EVERYTHING IS MY FAULT IE PND.JUST GLAD AM NOT BACK AT WORK YET.THANKS FOR YOUR POSTS.MUST GO AS HOUSE LOOKS LIKE POST NUCLEAR EXPLOSION AND DS AT NURSERY SO MAY HAVE OPPORTUNITY TO TIDY UP IF DD STOPS SCREAMING.