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Hospital?

(117 Posts)
SnowyMouse Sat 26-Jan-13 18:20:57

This evening the crisis team asked me if I would be better in hospital. There is no way I want to be in hospital, how can I persuade them otherwise? (other than saying I'm fine, which doesn't work).

Or the alternative, how can I persuade myself that I would tolerate hospital...I've had a few stays in the past?

SnowyMouse Thu 07-Feb-13 17:35:15

I hear what you are saying, NanaNina. I'm not not wanting to do it because of stigma, it's the voices and thoughts which are getting in the way, when I've been unwell before day hospital did help, it feels like it wouldn't this time.

NanaNina Thu 07-Feb-13 23:39:14

Hmm - if the day hospital helped last time, why do you think it won't help this time. You mention it's the voices and thoughts "getting in the way" - are they whispering to you that going to the day hospital is not a good idea. Wouldn't going to the day hospital be better than going in as an inpatient.

Have a think about the pros and cons of going to the day hospital (maybe write them down) and then it would be possible for you to talk to the CT about this. I know you struggle to find the right words with the CT but writing things down, will maybe help you to think more clearly and help with communicating with the CT.

Take care of yourself snowymouse (just love that nic name!!!)

SnowyMouse Fri 08-Feb-13 08:56:48

Last time it was the voices I was struggling with, this time it's depression. Good point re: making a pros/cons list, it's hard to be objective about though. If they said day hospital or inpatient, I would choose day hospital, but they haven't said that.

SnowyMouse Fri 08-Feb-13 17:29:20

I've survived (in the nicest possible way) another CT visit. They are hard to tolerate, but I'm trying.

NanaNina Fri 08-Feb-13 18:45:25

Well done snowymouse

Do you have anyone in RL (relatives or friends who can support you) Hope so.

SnowyMouse Fri 08-Feb-13 19:13:40

Yes I do, but I can't keep going on about it too much. It worries people.

TheSilveryPussycat Fri 08-Feb-13 20:02:53

can they come and just be with you? might it help?

SnowyMouse Fri 08-Feb-13 20:16:49

It feels best to stay away from people, I find it hard enough to let the CT in once a day. Hopefully when I'm feeling better it will be easier to let people in smile

SnowyMouse Sat 09-Feb-13 09:14:14

I'm giving in and going back to bed I think.

SnowyMouse Sat 09-Feb-13 10:41:20

That helped

TheSilveryPussycat Sat 09-Feb-13 11:16:44

Just got up, how ya doin? was your last post ironic or did going back actually help?

SnowyMouse Sat 09-Feb-13 11:29:10

No, it did help a bit thanks, it's too easy to dwell on things the CT have said on top of everything else. I would prefer it if they phoned rather than visited, but they will review on Monday

SnowyMouse Sat 09-Feb-13 11:42:00

I'd been trying not to nap in the day because it's not supposed to be good for you, but I've decided a short nap is ok.

TheSilveryPussycat Sat 09-Feb-13 12:41:55

am on vicar's bed thread, where we have decided tis ok to nap when low, provided we don't overdo it, and we are all supporting each other to manage our days. take a look?

SnowyMouse Sat 09-Feb-13 12:49:38

That sounds like a good plan smile It is nice seeing how everyone supports each other there.

NanaNina Sat 09-Feb-13 16:06:44

Snowymouse I think this "not supposed to good for you to nap through the day" is a bit crap to be honest. It's all well and good the medics telling us this when they have never experienced severe depression and the need to withdraw when we are very down. My CPN was always telling me not to nap in the day and not to isolate myself. My days are up and down and it's like being on an emotional rollercoaster and I want to get off!

I call my depression my Headmonster and he sleeps a fair bit and I am well and thenhwakes and goes on the rampage!! If I feel I need to nap then I do, either on the sofa with a blanket or on my bed with a nice soft mohair blanket over me. In fact I did this today and fell asleep but woke up feeling fair bit better

Like silverypussycat says we have decided it's ok to take a nap but not to overdo it (as in staying in bed all day) Yes take a look at the thread - there are a lot of poster on it now, but it is good to know others are having to find ways to manage bad days.

SO my advice is to take a nap when you need one, but keep up your personal hygiene (showering, brushing teeth etc). Do you have a nice soft blanket to cover yourself with for a nap.

SnowyMouse Sat 09-Feb-13 16:30:58

Thanks NanaNina smile. I hope your headmonster stays away. I have a fleece sleeping bag which is good for naps.

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