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Saying no and shutting down

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amillionyears Sun 06-Jan-13 08:36:56

Has something happened op, to make you feel embarassed or ashamed?

Sometimes, somethings that happen in life are not our fault, or other people that we thought were our friends, act unreasonably.

I feel like this fairly frequently and I suffer from depression and anxiety. I frequently feel that no-one really knows what's going on inside my head so they can't be real friends, so what's the point? I also struggle with going out and being sociable.

(I do have a couple of friends and DH who know exactly what's going on and who I can be completely honest with - that just tends to get overlooked when I'm withdrawing).

Are you taking any medication? Do you think counselling might help?

WithanAnotE Sun 06-Jan-13 08:17:32

Hi Hogmanyay withdrawing from people and not wanting to see friends can be associated with (but not exclusively) the onset of a depressive episode.

For me, it's one of my tells that means I slipping into a depressive episode and I get myself off to the doc or my therapist (or both) grin.

'Withdrawal' for me is the worst thing I can do as I then feel lonely and isolated, which makes my depression worse.

It's perfectly ok to want some time to yourself but if you feel 'you can't be bothered with people', or feel 'unloved', that people don't 'really' like you anymore or that you don't want to 'bother' other people, then it might be the start of a depressive episode.

For me its really hard to want to change the situation because of the effort required, but I know it's well worth it in the long run. smile

amillionyears Sat 05-Jan-13 16:26:01

Have you had a hard time recently?

hogmanyay Sat 05-Jan-13 12:18:17

Just a general anti social feeling I suppose

tibywibs Sat 05-Jan-13 08:16:49

I often think if i could take my dc and run to the other end of the country and never speak to anyone again we'd be happy..... on good days i realise that we'd be very lonely and it wouldn't solve what we where hiding from. What makes you feel like you want to hide away?

hogmanyay Sat 05-Jan-13 00:57:07

I feel like not seeing any friends, deleting Facebook and hiding in general.

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