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do i need help or will this pass

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cantfindamnnickname Tue 27-Nov-12 19:46:40

Ive had a lot to deal with in the last 6 months, I have left a controlling husband who preferred to spend his time in the pub. I have 3 children and the oldest blames me and has been unhappy generally and we moved house.
Their father doesnt have proper contact with the children despite me asking him to.
I have fallen out with my best friend and she will no longer talk to me. I have had a couple of brief flings that I really shouldnt have done.
I also met someone a couple of weeks ago and fell for him way too easily and quickly and he has now ended it.
I have a professional stressful job and I have just handed my notice in because i have been offered another job - I am waiting to find out my new start date.

I am now at the stage where i cant sleep properly, I am ill with a chest infection and I feel so low that I keep crying and i cant concentrate properly.
I am a strong person and people always refer to me as "tough" but I dont feel it at the moment.

I have an appointment with the Doctors tomorrow - I dont know whether to ask for some help or just get on with it and it will pass.

I dont want to take anything that will make me put weight on or stop me having a drink. Im aware I need to stop with the self destruct behaviour but I feel like Im spiralling out of control

NotWankinginaWinterWonderland Mon 03-Dec-12 17:02:24

Don't worry, I would like to say it passes but I was doing it too confused

Just wait until you/if you get to the 'I am breaking all rules phase' I break all the rules, I had, I sleep when I want (dc @ school), eat when we want (when I find dc) eat Takeaways on non takeaway days and yup, I do what I want when I want and no one can tell me off grin

I need to quit the dating though, my parents were worried. I was too driving 50 miles to meet men? Never again, way too much petrol money.

TheSilverPussycat Mon 03-Dec-12 20:18:22

On the emotional abuse thread (and others like it) in Relationships, the advice after leaving such a relationship is to take time to find yourself again before getting involved with someone new. Bad relationships erode self esteem, mess with your head, and make you vulnerable. And your twat radar is not likely to be very well tuned for a while, as you are likely to be biased so that you don't notice any twattishness because it is less than that of the partner you have escaped from.

Take your time. Get yourself settled into your new life, preferably alone. ADs can help in the short term.

NotWankinginaWinterWonderland Wed 05-Dec-12 17:02:01

I was counting today and I have dated 6 men this year, liked none, well one was okay-ish but I was off down the wrong path again, he was a 'bad-boy' handsome but no good!

I dated 2 months after I split with ex, then told the guy 'take me home, I do not need a man in my life thanks', dating him again this year just to double check I didn't like him, I didn't, he collects Teddybears. hmm He is too posh for me also, sounds strange swearing, he is policeman, he also lied about where he was/is from.

cantfindamnnickname Wed 05-Dec-12 17:10:42

why date them if you dont like them?
collects teddybears? oh dear!

I have taken the anti-depressants 3 times this week but they just make me feel really woozy and out of it and im not sure how thats gonna help me - I m not sure i should carry on with them.

I am over the guy - see clearly there was something else going on in my head.

I do need to steer clear of men though i think - but saying it and actually doing it very different.

NotWankinginaWinterWonderland Wed 05-Dec-12 17:39:02

Well obviously I don't know if I like them until I date them - so I date them and don't like them, they seem fine before I date them, or I wouldn't date them.

I have no idea if that makes sense.... confused

I haven't dated since October/September and feel better for not dating. Hope you feel better soon.

TheSilverPussycat Wed 05-Dec-12 18:30:31

As with all ADs you have to take them for a few weeks before they reach full effect. Initial side effects like wooziness should wear off quickly - if they don't, report back to GP for a change of meds.

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