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I am panicking about tomorrow - DP goes back to work

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QueenVictoria · 02/01/2006 10:34

And DD is always a nightmare on a Monday after having had her Dad all weekend so what is she going to be like after 10 days with him?

His first day back and he's got to go off travelling across the country and back so he'll be out early and back late.

The builders will be back to finish our loft. Or possibly not and i will have to chase them. So its either mess or stress.

Ive got to try and sort out my grievance thing with my ex employers too this week.

I want to hit the ground running but i think im just going to end up falling flat on my face.

Have had a very low week the past week and am feeling like i dont want to see people at the moment again.

I hate feeling like this. Ive always been such a strong character. And its not like i have the worst problems in the world either.

This is such crap.

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compo · 02/01/2006 10:39

I always feel like this when dh goes back to work after a holiday but honestly, it's never as bad as you think xxx

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crazydazy · 02/01/2006 10:42

Oh poor you QV, hope you are okay. My DP goes back tom too and know DS won't be happy as he has turned into "Daddy's boy" now and will play up for me no end.

Try and go out for a nice long walk, clear your mind, thats what I usually do.

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emily05 · 02/01/2006 10:48

QV - sympathises to you I understand fully. I was going to start a similar thread. Dh is going back to work after a couple of weeks off tomorrow and wont be back until 10pm. I am dreading it.

I too feel like I dont want to see people - I am glad you said that (not glad you feel it!!) as I feel like this alot and often think I am the only one!! I feel like shutting myself away. I am going to fight against the feeling and do the opposite!

I am going to get the house straight today (as dh home) and tomorrow orgainse myself and ds so it isnt as bad!

I hope that you are ok. Shall we check in on each other tomorrow and see how we are all getting on?!

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Pfer · 02/01/2006 10:59

DH went back to work today and so far the DS's have been suprisingly good! I was dreading it as it's usually awful when DH has been at home for a while then goes back to work, but hurrah! They love me too!

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QueenVictoria · 02/01/2006 13:33

Thanks everyone. Dont know if i'll get the time to check in Emily05 but will definitely try .

DD had a huge tantrum that lasted 45 mins this morning over getting dressed so im not looking forward to it at all. DP will be out of the house by 5am.

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emily05 · 02/01/2006 15:36

QV - have you tried all the usual things to cope with toddler mayhem? Ds has stickers for an insentive for being good and to be honest if he has a tantrum I totally ignore it and have seen that if I do this the momentum wears off!!

Do anything to keep your sanity (run in the park to wear dd off, lots of fresh air). I lknow how hard it is - I am on ads and find it hard to get motivated.

anyway - good luck x

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QueenVictoria · 02/01/2006 20:26

Thanks emily - im on ad's too.

DD is going through a particularly difficult phase and just wants to do the opposite of everything you say or do. Its wearing at the best of times.

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mummytosteven · 02/01/2006 20:34

Hi QV. Agree with Emily - try and drag yourself out somewhere like a park tomorrow - a bit of fresh air makes things feel a big more bearable, and there will be plenty of space for you. Can you stick DD in front of CBeebies to buy yourself a bit of breathing space?

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Mum2OneAndBump · 02/01/2006 20:43

I know exactly how you feel, i am feeling the same, dp is off back to work tomorrow after having 11 days off, i am totally dreading it as i am 37+4 weeks pregnant & feeling extrmely tired so i do not know how an earth i am going to cope with an energetic 3.4 yr old from god knows what time in the morning till 7pm at night.....

I am going to try & stay calm but i am sure my tiredness is going to get the better of me.

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QueenVictoria · 02/01/2006 20:53

Hi!

I have over used Cbeebies the past few weeks tbh. She's not so interested now.

I just dont want to start yelling at her again.

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emily05 · 03/01/2006 09:00

wrote down some ideas to keep the little ones occupied this morning (my desperate list! lol)

get a video out from the video shop (a novelty to them and more interesting to you than ceebeebies)

put her in the bath with some kitchen stuff (sounds silly but will keep ds occupied for ages)

Do some rough and tumble to wear her out. ds loves jumping, hopping and running around like a mad thing and always wears him out

get her to help with housework (if you want to do any that is!!!)

Go out - like mts said fresh air really helps.

mum2one - hope you are ok! feel for you.

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QueenVictoria · 03/01/2006 10:27

Things arent as bad - atm - as i thought they would be

DD didnt wake until 6.50am and climbed into bed with me until 7.30am so ive had a bit of a lie in.

DS didnt wake until 7.50am (after waking at 1.30am sounding like a sealion barking and wanting a drink), so i had time to sort DD out with a drink etc.

Builders turned up at 8am so thats good - our loft may well get finished by middle of next week after all

Have done breakfast without hitch. Got DD and DS dressed without a hitch (DD has been playing up for the last 10 days with this and it can take up to half hour to dress her and put her eczma creams on. She had a 45 minute tantrum doing it yesterday).

DS is now having a nap despite the banging and hammering going on in the loft. DD is watching cbeebies and playing with her toys on her own.

Will go out when DS has awoken.

Have got to go out anyway to docs and also got to pop into DD's nursery as it turns out on Friday night during bathtime we discovered 3 HUGE bite marks on her arm - the skin was grazed and bruised they were that vicious.

Anyway, the nursery are supposed to inform you of incidents when you pick up your child and you sign the accident book but they never said a thing. The bites are so vicious i cant believe they didnt see what happened. Thats what worries me - how did they miss such a vicious attack on DD - she would have cried out for sure.

My - that was a long post

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QueenVictoria · 03/01/2006 21:21

Went out. Nursery is looking into the biting incident. Have started another thread about it because its really annoyed me.

Both DD and DS fell asleep in the car so i had half hour to myself when i got back.

Their dinner etc went ok. Bathtime also went ok and DP arrived just before DD went to bed so she was pleased

Today didnt go anything like i thought it would.

I am glad to say, i have had a really good day.