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Mental health

i messed up

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JAPE2K · 19/12/2005 15:52

i really messed things up @ home by gambling on fruit machines and i have lied about where my money was going my girlfriend has had to put up with hell of a lot from me which i think is very good of her as some of you may know when you stop playing the bloodyn things you need to sort yourself out before any1 else which i feel very depressed and angry with myself for haveing to put her through it but its done and i cant change what i have done if i could i would i need to get myself sorted and get xmas over with then we can start to try and make it work which would be the best thing ever to happen to me i have said she can have all my bank statements and wage slips but but she wants me to get a mini statement also but it isnt going to help me get back on track again with her keep getting on to me i know she has every right to but i need to sort things out in my head before anything please let me know what you think...

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LadySherlockofLGJ · 19/12/2005 15:53

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

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JESSnutsRoastinOnAnOpenFire · 19/12/2005 15:54

Have you tried explaining how you a feeling to her?

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NewBethlehemGirlwithsparkles · 19/12/2005 15:54

Full stops would be good.

Nearly passed out reading that.

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bsg · 19/12/2005 15:55

That is a very long sentence!!!

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JAPE2K · 19/12/2005 15:57

i nearlly lost us our home in the procces of all this ccoz i was spending the rent money and now she is telling me that she going to move out but all i need is to get xmas gone and get thing right again which i think is very hard but worth a try

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JAPE2K · 19/12/2005 15:57

sorry not very good with grammer.

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tamba · 19/12/2005 16:00

Does your dp no you are on mn???

have to echo LGJs hmmmmmm

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JAPE2K · 19/12/2005 16:02

nope she doesnt coz i have just joined and she is at work.

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kalexcelsis · 19/12/2005 16:02

is your partner a mumsnetter though?

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tamba · 19/12/2005 16:03

Is your dp an mnner?

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MistletAero · 19/12/2005 16:04

You have admitted there is a problem - now it seems you should get some help/support to sort it out. I know of someone who has a similar problem and he gambled rather than pay the rent. He's a very lonely person now..........the only person who can truly help you is yourself and the first step is admitting you have a problem which you cannot sort out by yourself. I think there is a gamblers annonymous in existance. That would be a good place to start.

Oh, and I agree - full stops would be good and make things easier to read.

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MistletAero · 19/12/2005 16:05

Slightly agree too LGJ etc, but benefit of the doubt and all that..............

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bsg · 19/12/2005 16:16

When I joined I had to wait 24 hours before I could post! How come you are able to post straight away then?

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JAPE2K · 19/12/2005 16:32

yes she is a mums netter. dont know why i can post straight away. i have admitted to myself i had a problem but haven't played on them for 2 weeks now dp says it is because i have no money as i was of sick. i am determained not to go back on them and get my family back on track as i should of in the first place

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SackAche · 19/12/2005 16:35

I think I know who you are (well not in RL... but I think I know which MN is your partner). I'm glad you have realised you need help.... but how you going to go about getting it?

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JAPE2K · 19/12/2005 16:38

i am just going to stay away and put my family first.

dp has rang the housing association about moving out .

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tamba · 19/12/2005 16:40

I also know which mnner is your partner and i dont think its very fair that you come on here because this is her place where she can get advice, and post anything she wants to keep private, feelings etc and to me, this is like you are invading her personal space.

Perhaps here would be more appropriate.

I know i will get shouted at for posting this but i really dont care.

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JAPE2K · 19/12/2005 16:41

dont you think need some help and advice too.

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tamba · 19/12/2005 16:41

and also, i dont no whether you know your dps posting name and even if you say you do know it, i think it would be better if no one mentioned it on here.

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TheVillageIdiot · 19/12/2005 16:43

I hope this is her dp and not some horrid wind up.

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JAPE2K · 19/12/2005 16:44

this her dp. for real

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tamba · 19/12/2005 16:45

I would prefer it was a horrid wind up tbh as I know that I would be pretty pissed off if my dh came on here when i was at work, to somewhere that i let my guard down, talk about thinks i dont necasserily want my dh to know, and invaded my personal space....

After the shit time she has been through she deserves her space to vent and talk things through without feeling she is being checked up on and watched over.

IMO

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JAPE2K · 19/12/2005 16:48

i AM NOT checking up or watching over what she posts. to be honest its up her what she writes and i dont blame her anything she writes about me. i only came on here to vent all that has built up in me. this was the only place i could think of.

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SackAche · 19/12/2005 16:49

Totally disagree with you Tamba. He can post here if he likes! And WELL DONE FOR LOOKING FOR ADVICE!!

He clearly knows how much his DP benefits from MN, why shouldn't he.

Sorry you've had this reaction.... really I am.

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sparklymieow · 19/12/2005 16:50

I think that you need help, I know who your partner is and I thihk that people are being rude again. He need help and support, and why not from MN??

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