My friend has a history of OCD. Checking all plugs are off. Doors are locked etc.
She had some therapy a few years ago and did improve,I don't think she had CBT, just a counceller at her doctors surgery. Was given homework (reduce the amount she checks 5,then 4 time and so on) and although she told me she was ok I did suspect at the time she was just telling me so I didn't worry.
She has just come over to me and told me that it's started back up again over the past few months. She's contantly checking electrics - not as bad as before but now she's not sleeping on a night because she's up and down checking the doors. She exhausted at work because she's not getting any sleep. She's told her boss and he has been quite understanding in some ways and he understands that stress makes her worse so he has sent her home from work every lunchtime so she can sleep (she seems fine through the day, doesn't have to check the locks) but is insisting she still does some things at work which is stressing her out so she feels he's only making the right noises so to speak which it increasing her stress levels. Shes also worrying that if she reduces her hours she wont be able to cope financially. She doesn't think she can take these hours off as part holiday as she works in a school.
Now this time she has told me she is self harming. :( She feels good when she self harms but then feels guilty immediately after. From what little I know about self harm it's about the feeling of control (is that right?) but I'm so lost and really want to help her but really don't know how or what to say. I know me just being here for her is a start and I've been looking to see if there are any support groups for her to attend while she is waiting on her CBT but I seem to be just going round in circles on Google.
The doctor says it will be 4 to 5 weeks before she gets an appointment but she seems really downhearted thinking that no one can help her and can't see how talking to stranger can help. She has mentioned to me that she thinks her OCD stems from when she was younger and how her dad treated her (that's a long long story). She is on ADs and the dose has been increased to 60mg (sorry don;t know which AD she is on) from 20mg which was the initial dose.
So that's a bit of a the backstory. I suppose what I'm asking of the knowledgable MNers is are there support groups I could help her find. I'm at a loss how to help her in the interim, especially with the self harming - I just feel so useless, I'm sat here in tears.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you have medical concerns, please seek medical attention.
Mental health
Friend with OCD now self harming. How can I help while she is awaiting CBT, This is huge sorry!
3 replies
manticlimactic · 16/03/2011 00:14
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.