Feel likeI I'm goingunder again.

[TotorosOcarina]

was going to name change but CBA.

I just feel really overwhelmed at the moment.

Am not on my sertraline cause pregnant, i tried to go back on them after 20 weeks but they made me really, really ill, so am going it alone.

I just feel like I don't want to do anything and DH is getting fed u with me even though he is the most patient person alive and genuinly looks after me so well, even he has his limits.

I have no cld free time, DD doesn't go to bed so shes up with me till i go up to bed and she sleeps between DH and me, so I literally don't get a minute away from her.

I have a 6yr old, 4 yr old, 2 year old and am pregnant.

I just want to feel normal.

I dont want to go out and stuff just be happy.

[compo]

Could you sort out dds bedtime? Is she the two year old?
I'm not surprised you're feeling down , it must be exhausting

[Spidermama]

You've got to try to get your dd to bed. Have you seen Supernanny doing this with kids who won't sleep in their own beds? You just have to grit your teeth (or better still get your dh to do it as he's stronger than you at the momnt). Tell the 2 year old she has to sleep in her bed now. Make it nice for her. Then do it:

Pick a night, send her to bed at a reasonable time, and put her back every time she she gets out of bed. Even if you have to do it 50 times, dig deep and do it. You have to win this. You HAVE to claw back some space. Especially with another on the way.

[TotorosOcarina]

Yes shes the 2 yr old.

The boys go to bed at 7 and are fantastic,

she wakes all night but if she in our bed she doesn't make a peep just goes back to sleep. if she wakes in her own room or without me being there she screams and cries and saas shes 'scared' (shes not!)

So its just always been easier to keep her with us,

but would really like to put her to bed same time as the boys and just feel normal for a bit in the evening.

shes running around now like its 10am and wont stop until i go to bed and often have to go bed really early - when i don't want to.

[TotorosOcarina]

I know spidermama :(

DH is awful though, once hes asleep it takes ages to wake him so the 'putting her back' during the night would have to be down to me and i'm too soft.

[GlynistheGimmer]

Hi there


spidermama is right you know. you HAVE to be strong.

can you sit down the DH and plan your 'putting back to sleep' together, and if it means you have to elbow him in the ribs to have him go to your DD then so be it, at least you will be lying in bed and she will see that you cannot be there all the time, but her dad is there for her too?

Start a thread on here too, let MN support you at the same time?

[Spidermama]

toto you HAVE to do it or make your dh do it. You'll go mad if you don't get your bed back before the baby comes.

Tell your dh this has to be done for the sake of your mental health. Tell him to sleep in at xthe weekend because HE is going to do the night duty. It might not take all night. If he's sleepy, he has to drink coffee.

You have to take control of this for your sake first and foremost ... and for everyone's sake in the long run. x

[janx]

Poor you - sounds like your dp will need to do it. Can he take her out and wear her out one day - swimming etc and then he can drink lots of coffee and stay up. Give her loads of incentives - if you stay in your big girl bed you can xyz or we can do xzy. Keep at it. My ds was a terrible sleeper and sleep deprivation is a form of torture...my dp had to do it all

[compo]

Yes you really need to get dh on side and sort her out
it's not fair on the boys that she's still up
I know it's going to be tough but you'll feel much better with a bit of time in the evenings until the baby comes

[compo]

Was it his idea to have no 4? He really needs to step up now

[TotorosOcarina]

It was a joint descision, as much as I feel down I genuinly love being a mum,

I just need to get straight.

I really do feel the strain after 7!

I will sort her room out (has become the dumping ground because she never uses it!) and get her a sticker chart, she is mad on stickers.

shes very clever but very stubborn.

DH 'steps up' all day everyday, he is a saint. I'd be a wreck without him, hes like super dad!

[GlynistheGimmer]

toto

i have a feeling there a many posters who 'know' you much better than i do, so forgive if i'm over the mark here but DH isn't pregnant, isn't worrying about sleep issues then is he? you need to share this with him by this i mean share the 'sorting out' not let him rest on his laurels with you shouldering the bad stuff. he sounds fab, and so will be fab at getting DD where you want her to be too.

your DD is very clever, but 'getting one over on you' atm. please don't make any more reasons for her not sleeping in her own bed, if you don't want her there.

[TotorosOcarina]

He is on edication that knocks him out at night so is hard for him to get up,

but he will do it if i ask.

[TotorosOcarina]

*medication even

[GlynistheGimmer]

i don't want to leave the thread with your last comment 'dangling' OP

[can i sneak another UN-MN hug in here? 2nd one under this topic today]

[TotorosOcarina]

thankyou,

i will get it sorted, some days are fine, its just the bad ones that stand out

[shodatin]

I'd be tempted to put dd in her own bed then take some of dh's medication...

[TotorosOcarina]

I can't its very strong stuff hes on and im pregnant

its not medication for sleeping, its just a side effect