DS2 is 5 months old, I also have 3 more DCs DD2 2.10, DD1 11 and DS1 14.
DH is out of the house from 6am-6.30pm everyday and usually works all day Saturday. I have little family support or friends. I am really struggling at the moment but not sure if it is just because life with 4 kids can be hard at times for everyone and it will get better or whether it is more than that and that actually, I may need a little help.
I feel like I am blinking back tears most of the time, the slightest thing sets me off. I'm shouty with the kids, especially the older 2 although they are typical teenagers (even if one isn't one technically, the attitude certainly is) and I also feel anxious too.
I worry about DS2 constantly - is he being stimulated enough, does he have enough tummy time etc - all silly things really when I write them down but they don't seem silly at the time. I'm also dreaming terribly too, last night I dreamt that I lost DS2, I had taken my eye off him for a second in a car park and when I turned round he had gone, presumably abducted. I was hysterical and when I awoke I couldn't get it out of my head and that made me feel even more anxious as though it was a premonition. I also regularly dream that DH is having an affair. The dreams are so real that during the following day I get flashbacks which play on my mind.
I have tried talking to DH, not in any great detail as there never seems to be enough time, but whenever I've said things like how anxious I feel his standard response is 'that's how I feel all the time' or if I say I've had a bad day/am struggling he'll say 'welcome to my world'. He runs his own business and it is extremely stressful so he no doubt does feel the same but I feel like I'm not allowed to feel 'down' etc - he is very supportive of me in other areas and a fantastic dad and husband but he doesn't understand depression, very much of the 'pull yourself together' school of thought. Therefore I stop talking then as I don't feel I can really say how I feel and there's not much he could do even if I did.
I'm ebf DS2 so not able to have a break from hhim at all as I can't express (just rubbish at it) although I know it won't be many more months before he is weaned onto solids enough for me to have a day away and as long as DH isn't working he would be more than happy to have the kids so I can have time to myself. I don't really want time to myself atm as I don't know what I would do as have no friends to go out with etc anyway. My self esteem has always been on the floor and I struggle to meet new people becasue of that.
I'm not sure I'm even making any sense here but it is helping to put all my thoughts down. I'm just wondering if the way I'm feeling is just how life is at times with 4 kids, a reasonably large house to keep on top of, bad weather keeping us indoors etc etc, or could it be PND?
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PND or just the way life is?
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IckleJess · 10/11/2010 21:44
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