Both people in a couple with depression?

[SpookyKalooki]

How do you cope?

Bot myself and DH struggle with depression, and have done for a long time. Him since he was 7(!!) and me since I was 15.

Most of the time we manage, usually one stays positive while the other struggles. But some days it's just not possible.

It's hard then, because one will bring the other down. The GP has talked of hospitalising DH before, but hasn't done so, as he thinks it would be better for both of us to be together. (Which I agree with) But it's a scary thought, if DH suddenly got worse and had to be hospitalised, what would I do? Would he be ok without me? Would I be ok without him?

[TotorosOcarina]

Hi,

I'm in same boat, DH has depression badly and I have mild depression but suffer badly from anxiety.

DH can't work because of his problems and mine, in short we are VERY dependant on each other for most things - we just help each other through.

The fear of DH not being here is a huge one for me, even him being forced back to work, I have no idea how I would cope. :(

[madmouse]

We do depression (dh) and PTSD (me) at the same time - he has been depressed on and off for many years, I was diagnosed with PTSD April 2009.

Both having bad days is the pits, really really hard, especially because he disappears upstairs all day when he can't cope - leaving me to look after ds and the house while I can't cope either.

I've had lots of episodes of acute distress (memories coming back, flashbacks, wanting to disappear, wanting to die, not seeing the way out) and dh has not been able to cope with that and fantastic friends have stepped into the breach and largely kept me afloat so I could keep the family afloat...

We are both on the up now, in a very fundamental way, not just depression lifting for now but self esteem issues being addressed. But if I need ot talk I talk to one of my friends. DH still doesn't have much 'space' for it.