i'm pregnant for the first time, i'm now 34+3, when i found out i was so happy, and still am. i really REALLY want this baby, its been 2 years of ttc hell, mc's and an operation.
the problem is during the first trimester i had quite a hard time and seriously considered abortion and telling dh it was another mc if you knew me you'd know this is completly out of character for me and i personally believe abortion isnt right (i dont want to get into an argument about this - i just wanted to point this out as i feel it shows my frame of mind at the time, i respect other peoples decisions and fully support friends who have had abortions)
i didnt tell dh i was feeling like this and am too ashamed to admit that i didnt want our much longed for baby
the feeling shocked me so much and i pushed it to the back of my mind, put on a front and acted as if every thing was fine and it sort of has been untill now.
i'm having a really hard time in the final few weeks and just want this baby out of me, i have feelings of hatred towards her she is runing my body, hurting me and making me feel tired and crap all the time. i cant stop crying and hate myself for feeling like this.
i dont really hate her - deep down i really want her to be part of our family. but i am so scared that when she is born i'll still feel like this. i've discussed some of the issues with dh and we have come up with some ways of deling with things now and once the baby is born.
but i just feel so guilty and horrible for feeling like this. friends are already asking if we've thought about when we will start trying for number 2 and i just want to scream and shout at them. i feel so belittled when i get told i'll want another once this one comes out when in actual fact, right now i dont want this one.
friends keep telling me how much i should be enjoying being pregnant and bonding with my baby but i just want her out of me, i havent enjoyed any of this pregnancy and when she moves i just wish she would stop. thats hardly bonding is it?
i dont know what to do, i'm scared that if i admit all of how i'm feeling to dh or anyone else they will take my baby away from me which i really dont want.
i just feel so alone in all of this
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i'm so scared
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AmIAlone · 26/09/2010 19:19
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