ive had an exceptionally bad year,
im 21, 22 in a few days, i have a ds 3 and dd who is 21mnths, my dp is 24.
my dp lost his job and increasing financial pressure caused us to be evicted, our ils offered us a house to rent which we took, moving 2hrs away from my family and where wed set up home,
a week after i moved my grandma who brought me up was diagnosed with terminal cancer, and the drugs and treatment have changed her personality so much, its impossible being around her.
my dp was in a car accident and wrote our car off.
then a few weeks later my baby brother was still born.
after staying at mums for 3weeks for insurance to pay out on a new car,
she begged me not to leave.
problem here is my mums new husband is actually an ex of mine, very uncomfortable, and my brother and sister 2 and 5 are also crammed into this tiny 3 bedroom, there are 8 of us here now.
i didnt, and ive been here 6mnths.
ils put the house up for sale.
im desperate to move back home for good, i need to be here.
we cant find any private landlords on houses we can afford that will accept hb.
i had an early miscarridge a few weeks ago and dp showed no emotion at all.
ive recently started spending large amounts of time on msn and with a good old friend, hes male and dp has issues about it but hes the only person listening to me.
dp was recently offered a job starting in jan just up the road from our current house, ie not in my 'home' town hes eager to move there and i said id think about it but realised i feel actual pain at the thought of going back there.
im swinging from one emotion to the other, my heart hurts, im running from all my responsibilities and being self destructive,
ive spent the whole evning ignoring my family to listen to music and talk to the friend i mentioned online. i feel sick from holding tears in as i cant let myself be weak as i think when i do ill loose all control.
im feeling selfish and irresponsible for wanting dp to turn down the job so i can come home and be skint, is my happiness more important, am i going crazy. i cant sleep until 2-3am every night and sleep until lunch, hes doing everything short of clothe me each day, i dont know what id do without him. im an appaling mum as i rarely see the kids now, when i do, i make sure we go to the park or get crafts out so they cant get bored and put pressure on me.
im rambling and making no sense and physically shaking finally saying all this.
i know this is not normal but i feel like im gonna fall apart.
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i need help.
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JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns · 02/09/2010 01:36
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