My BOSS has sent a friend request on FB. WWYD?

(41 Posts)
Spidermama Fri 12-Apr-13 15:05:49

She's my editor. I don't want to be FB friends with her because I'll lack the <relavitve> freedom I feel when posting at the moment.
Nor do I want to snub her and I do notice three of my other colleagues are her FB friends.
Isn't it a bit weird to be FB friends with your boss?

Coconutty Fri 12-Apr-13 15:06:28

Ignore it. Play dumb.

OrangeFootedScrubfowl Fri 12-Apr-13 15:07:01

I only friend work people when I leave. It's a sensible rule!

Beechview Fri 12-Apr-13 15:07:23

I would ignore then just make out that you're not really a fb user if she brings it up - its what I do.

CajaDeLaMemoria Fri 12-Apr-13 15:07:40

Ignore. She'll never know.

If she ever asks, say that you don't use FB often/didn't get the request. FB is full of glitches. She's unlikely to ever mention it, though.

Adding your boss on FB is just asking for trouble.

Pancakeflipper Fri 12-Apr-13 15:07:49

No. Not a good idea.

Or set up an account just for work colleagues and have posts like "I hate weekends, it means I am not with amazing boss."

Spidermama Fri 12-Apr-13 15:15:29

Just what I wanted to hear. Thanks I will ignore and play dumb.

LoopaDaLoopa Fri 12-Apr-13 15:42:24

Are you friends with other colleagues?

Trills Fri 12-Apr-13 15:43:20

"I hate weekends, it means I am not with amazing boss."


Def ignore.

WTAF?? ?

Naughty boss.

Greydog Fri 12-Apr-13 15:53:23

ignore it. I'd never have any FB friends from work, unless you're sure that these people are utterly trustworthy. I've seen too many people caught out by FB "Friends" who have reported so called negative comments about their work place.

usualsuspect Fri 12-Apr-13 15:55:16

You could add her and restrict what she sees. Or just ignore.

Just ignore it. I think it's perfectly acceptable to do this with work colleague FB requests. I only have a couple of work friends on FB and they're the ones I would go drinking with anyway, so they already know the worst of me.

Tortington Fri 12-Apr-13 16:02:17

you set up a seperate online identity like me spidermama.

or just tell her you prefer to keep professional and personal seperate - that's what i say.

What an odd thing to do, I would never be fb friends with people I manage.

MewlingQuim Fri 12-Apr-13 16:13:17

I am friends with my boss on fb.

I like her though and I wouldn't complain about work on fb anyway, I only post about once every 6 months and its usually about my DD or my DDog.

needs to get a life

add her as restricted

MewlingQuim Fri 12-Apr-13 16:18:04

I'd rather be friends with my boss than my brother. He keeps sending me friend requests and messages, I tell him I don't have a fb account and it must be someone with the same name as me. It's not a common name so its obvious that I'm lying but I don't care, he is a twat. grin

EuroShaggleton Fri 12-Apr-13 16:19:12

I won't add anyone from the office. There are a few requests in my inbox. I just leave them there.

k12345678 Fri 12-Apr-13 16:29:13

I would accept them, but put them into my 'restricted' friends group. by putting them into the restricted friend settings they can see virtually no more than non friends, they won't see your wall posts or photos. they'll then just assume you don't use fb much. I do this to clients, or people I barely know who request to fb friend me!

twentythirteen Fri 12-Apr-13 16:34:25

Just say you don't 'friend' colleagues. If you ignore it, as I did, it can keep popping up. They'll wonder, feel rejected, just say it and get it over with, maybe then invite them for a coffee duirng work time if you're worried the rejection feels too harsh.

AssamAndDarjeeling Fri 12-Apr-13 16:37:08

Add her, and then immediately put her on 'limited profile'.

She'll think you just have an exceptionally boring Internet life and be none the wiser!

how do you put in limited?

Withalittlesparkle Sat 13-Apr-13 09:39:16

My husband won't friend his staff on FB he says he knows what they think about work but he'd rather see it written down!!

Stillcluelessat40 Sat 13-Apr-13 10:00:38

Good to hear about the restricted info thing. Not my boss that's my issue, but my mum!

GettingGoing Thu 18-Apr-13 17:52:30

I would accept, but maybe delete her after a few weeks if you are not comfortable with it.

ivykaty44 Sun 19-May-13 17:33:05

Rather than say you don't friend work people tell her you only have family on facebook for keeping in touch and as it is family stuff it is all a bit private

anon2013 Tue 10-Sep-13 10:12:51

I was friends with my boss on fb and thought we were fine until I was given a disciplinary over something trivial (forgetting to pass on a message). I was so angry I typed out a status then remembered last second and blocked said boss and didn't post. I'm only friends with work colleagues not superiors.

CMOTDibbler Tue 10-Sep-13 10:20:21

I don't accept colleagues or customers on fb. I just message people to say that when I decline.

quoteunquote Tue 10-Sep-13 10:24:36

Have two FB accounts, one in your real name which is used for contacts,

and your friends ones,

add family to which ever one is appropriate.

valiumredhead Tue 10-Sep-13 10:28:38

Just ignore it! If she says anything just day 'oh did you,I'm terrible with Facebook I always miss things'wink

Hogwash Tue 17-Sep-13 15:49:36

You could always add her and then delete her later - or just make sure you exclude her from anything you post. Bit of a pain tho'.

lade Tue 17-Sep-13 23:46:55

I always restrict what some people can see.

Assign those you don't want to have full access to an acquaintances list. Then all my posts go out to "friends except acquaintances". I have to make a conscious decision to actually post messages for all friends to see. Acquaintances cannot see my photos either. Because my default setting is to post things to friends except acquaintances, It is not difficult to manage.

If anyone adds me that I'd rather not have. I usually accept and immediately put them on as an acquaintance. It works as a good compromise for me.

Selks Tue 17-Sep-13 23:55:08

I think if someone sends you a friend request even if you don't accept but just leave it sitting there, they can see all your page just like a friend can. Beware.

BigPawsBrown Tue 17-Sep-13 23:58:32

I have all colleagues on a list called 'work.' My default privacy settings for Facebook is "Friends except: Work". It works for me; you get to not snub them but retain your privacy.

I was going to say accept and restrict then I saw I'd already said that months ago when the thread was started.

BigPawsBrown Wed 18-Sep-13 00:03:08

selks I don't think that's true. I think it's true if you send someone a request they can see your page but not the other way around. I just sent a friend request (that I wanted to send anyway!) and the page is the same, just says friend requested.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Hogwash Wed 18-Sep-13 00:06:31

This is one of the reasons I don't really use Facebook now. I used to have a nice small group of people I really liked and then received requests from people I'd really have preferred not to have been there, but felt I had to accept.

I think it can be a bit obvious if you have them excluded from everything and it gets complicated when Facebook keep changing security all the time. You could do more damage by excluding them from things and them realising than just turning them down in the first place.

Hogwash Wed 18-Sep-13 00:10:51

Oh, Zombie.

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