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I have the Facebook app on my iphone but I can't seem to mark my posts as custom, even in settings. So, although I ve got ' custom' on my laptop access for my posts, if I post via my iphone 4S (IOS6) it doesnt give me the option to bar individuals from seeing my posts. It just posts it up as 'Friends' or 'public' or 'just me. Anyone else the same?