My dd is 11 and goes to dancing twice a week. Tuesday and Wednesday. Tuesdays are really hard as she goes to guides straight after do not home until 8.45. I'm not pushy and she loves what she does. Dies the odd festival in groups and takes her exams. The school know this as she gets lots of homework and I've had to tell then Tuesdays are difficult. So this term they are rehearsing for the y6 play. Dd has a small non speaking part (chorus really) They scheduled the rehearsal for Tuesdays 3-5 so I e mailed to say I will have to get her at 4.30. It seems this has really annoyed them. I had a call saying I had to prioritise the school and I said as I pay a lot for dance she needs to attend class. I feel I'm compromising by leaving her there until 4.30 then rushing her to dancing while she eats in the car. The teacher has made a couple if remarks to dd about her not going for the full time which has upset her. So today we get another e mail to say there are now two rehearsal days the other is a Wednesday so she will need to be picked up even earlier which will go down like a lead balloon. I feel as if they think her dancing is trivial and should always take second place. I wonder if they would feel the same if she was playing for a sports team or having a piano lesson? Anyone have any experience if this? I've had to e mail again to say Wednesday is no good either. I feel like a right pain in the arse.
I would be inclined to say that as dancing and guides are prior commitments that she enjoys and that you have had to pay for, and as she has only a minor role in the school production you will be continuing to prioritise her regular commitments and you are sorry but that's just the way it is. So long as the main performers get all the rehearsal they need I'm sure they will manage well enough if one or two of the chorus line are not quite a up to speed as they should be. It's not like there is an exam at the end of it.
felatio I did think that as dd has done lots of other plays with much more demand ie lines to learn or dances, that she wil certainly cope with a small part in a school production but I didn't want too ok more pushy than they already seem to think
It's not clear. Are all the Y6 pupils expected to stay behind or is this something she has volunteered for? If it is something she chose to do then you should have made it clear to her that she couldn't do it on certain days. If it is something she is expected to do with all the other Y6 pupils then they can't make her do it after school and dancing should take priority. They should be practicing during school time.
I've had similar 'discussions' with school about ds dancing and school things clashing. They have been more understanding though as he is officially 'G&T' (their words, not mine!) for dance so are generally ok about him being released for dance stuff.
She wants to be part of it though as they are all involved. And being in a school at us not "education" so school work not suffering. Would you really put this first when you are paying nearly 200 a term for dance lessons that your child loves? Wow
In that case I'd be telling school that she was doing the dancing, not the staying extra at school. They can then decide what to do about her part but it sounds like she wouldn't have too many problems learning it anyway! School should really be more undertanding and I suspect they would if it was a boy going to a football academy for instance. We're very lucky with our school.
No it's an ordinary school. They have been strange about it before when I said she can't manage homework on Tuesday as well as after-school Sats practice. They suggested she stopped dancing In order to do the homework
Yes for extra maths. This despite me asking for some help with her maths for years I had a meeting with the head and suggested if he can afford it she should vary on with extra lessons after sats. Strangely they can't afford that. Very academic and sought after school (i wonder why) that just happens to be my nearest.