DS plays an instrument. Is musically talented according to teacher. Has had distinctions in past, with minimal effort (although I have usually been in te background, chivvying him along..)
Since Sept he has been at secondary school, and he's more or less been giving me the 'back off a bit Mum' messages. His teacher gives him practice homework every week (e.g. part of a piece, or x & y scales etc) and I hear him practicing while I'm cooking etc, and ask him if he has completed it. He says, 'yes'.
He has an exam next week, and I have just run through everything with him.
HE DOES NOT KNOW HIS SCALES AT ALL . He has about 12 to learn, with arpeggios etc.
His teacher has been writing in his book for the last month SCALES/ SCALES/SCALES!
We have just had a big row where he has tried to turn it all back on me (for not 'helping him enough'/ his teacher (for 'not telling him off') and anyone/anything else he can think of.
I've today tried to sit down with him to develop a 'recovery plan' for this week to get to a 'good enough' position for his exam.
All I've had is shouting/tears and abuse, followed by a stream a rude texts when he stormed off to his room .
What should I do? Leave him to it? Let him fail?
(To be honest, his teacher says she thinks he will 'pass' OK but probably not get a merit etc)
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Cornflakemum · 10/03/2012 14:46
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