Fat people in the gym....

(104 Posts)
TidyGOLDDancer Sat 06-Oct-12 16:03:18

First of all, I don't intend that title to be offensive to anyone. I have been specifically asked to use it by (and I quote) "a fat person" in order to get raw reactions and opinions. I am not a troll, some of you may recognise my name so hopefully you will know I am not a horrible person on here!

My friend is going to start coming to the gym with me as of Monday. I couldn't be happier. She is great company and I can't wait to have a gym buddy. DP is crap as he lurks in the strength room most of the time and is totally antisocial. My friend is ace and I am really pleased she is going to come and work out with me.

The 'problem' (her words, not mine) is that she is quite overweight and really worried that she's going to be made fun of. My experience of the gym is that this really isn't the truth. I have never seen anyone of any size being made fun of. I have seen young and old and little and large and all manner in between people in the gym and no one gives a shit what anyone else looks like or does (unless they hog a particular piece of equipment or take tonnes of calls on their mobiles!).

Please could anyone who goes to the gym help me convince my friend of the above? She's really looking foward to coming with me, but is nervous and needs convincing! Again, I really hope my use of specific words has not offended anyone, my friend has asked me to post this and use those words!

TidyGOLDDancer Sat 06-Oct-12 16:05:13

P.S. I weighed nearly 19 stone when I started using the gym, and I didn't get the negativity then. My silly yet lovely friend does not believe me!

maebyfunke Sat 06-Oct-12 16:05:42

Everyone is there to make improvements to their body and health and are generally to busy concentrating on themselves to take much notice of other people!

Pagwatch Sat 06-Oct-12 16:05:44

No one laughs at overweight people in my gym. I have never seen anyone peering or sneering at anyone else.

Most people in a gym completely understand the determination it takes to go there and work out when sitting on the sofa eating buns is much more tempting so I think we tend to respect each other. That's how I feel anyway.

I am fat. (ish) Size 16. I have never been made fun of. I have seen plenty of people much fatter than me, and nobody has batted an eyelid. Aside from me, maybe, in relief that I am not the only one..... wink

cocolepew Sat 06-Oct-12 16:06:40

I find nobody pays any attention to anyone else.

TidyGOLDDancer Sat 06-Oct-12 16:08:18

Brilliant responses so far! Thank you all!

My perspective, both when I was at my biggest and when I have been much smaller, has been the same as the majority. No one gives a shit about anyone else. They are all there to do their own thing and they don't care about what anyone else looks like or does.

This is for OP's friend - NO ONE WILL CARE ABOUT YOUR SIZE IN THE GYM grin

Bless her though, until I had been inside my gym I would've thought the same to be honest, but the reality is that everyone is there for a workout; all shapes and sizes.

melliebobs Sat 06-Oct-12 16:08:53

I work on an exercise referral scheme and the majority of my patients are overweight. (bmi 40+) and this is the main barrier I come across.

No one will be laughing/pointing. If weights an issue she's in the right place doing something about it! The first visit is usually the worst but after that most of my patients have found that people are too busy doing their workout/faffing with their phones/watching the TV to care what anyone else looks like or is doing! Also they are surprised at the mix of people that go. Fat/thin young old and it's great she'll have a supportive friend to go with grin

azazello Sat 06-Oct-12 16:09:20

I occasionally notice and think good on them.

Bumply Sat 06-Oct-12 16:09:45

I was over 18 st when I started losing weight and gym was part of that.
People in the gym tend to be very focused on themselves - no judging that I've ever seen/heard. I lost 4st and have put a bit back on, but kept majority off. I now go running and take part in races. My race photos show I'm still a larger lady, but I think of it as showing I'm an achievable example. Did my first half marathon in September.

Mosman Sat 06-Oct-12 16:10:06

People are generally too busy admiring themselves in all the mirrors ime

UnChartered Sat 06-Oct-12 16:10:11

IME everyone is far too worried about what they look like to even look up

good luck to your friend

MarchelineWhatNot Sat 06-Oct-12 16:10:35

People are far too concerned with checking out themselves than looking at anyone else, IME.

GoldShip Sat 06-Oct-12 16:10:49

Aw! Tell her not to worry, and good on her for going in the first place. I really need to get back but mega busy with two jobs and college and I'm too lazy

As long as she's not like one girl who went to my gym. Who plonked herself on the machine I wanted, for twenty minutes doing nothing except watching the tv on the wall and drinking a can of full fat coke.

noviceoftheday Sat 06-Oct-12 16:11:27

I know someone who started going to the gym a few months ago. Size 24 (I think) and was absolutely terrified for the same reasons as your friends. She loves it and goes 3 nights a week now. I second what everyone else says, nobody pays attention to anyone else! Hope she comes with you.

azazello Sat 06-Oct-12 16:11:42

Sorry - to add. I notice because my mum is obese (25 stone +/-) but actually does quite a bit of exercise. She's doing very well with swimming and although she doesn't particularly lose weight (because the exercise is immediately made up for in bread and jam) she is in much better shape than many people of her age and size.

No, my gym has all sizes, all ages no one really takes notice of each other. I started at size 18 and was nervous when I first went in, but took one look around and relaxed. Good on your friend, she`ll be fine.

Svrider Sat 06-Oct-12 16:16:30

I think she must niece

Psiren Sat 06-Oct-12 16:19:28

I have just joined the gym this week. I weigh 118kgs (18s8lb) I am hugely self conscious but have realised that without the exercise I am only going to get fatter. I am sure no one cares but if they do it is their problem not mine. I am really enjoying it so far despite my poor aching limbs and I know it will be worth it in the long run. Good luck to your friend op.

TidyGOLDDancer Sat 06-Oct-12 16:20:48

Bumply - that's brilliant! I aim to work towards a half marathon in the next year. Well done!

My friend is really excited about coming with me, but I feel she's letting this worry taint that. I am so happy she's joining in because she's a brilliant friend and such a laugh to spend time with. I think we will keep each other motivated.

Thanks for all the replies!

Kopparbergkate Sat 06-Oct-12 16:24:42

I am a mature (and fat!) student - this is relevant because I go to the university gym whose entire clientele seem to be gorgeous, thin, pert under 20s... I have never, ever seem anyone even glance in my direction. If there's no issues in that environment, your friend will definitely be fine in a normal gym where there are all shapes, sizes and ages.

I love going to the gym now, and that's such a turn round for me.

Pochemuchka Sat 06-Oct-12 16:26:29

Agree with all the posters who say everyone is too concerned with themselves to be laughing at anyone else!
Most people I know look at overweight people and think 'good on them!'.

The only eye rolling I have ever seen is in the direction of those muscly men who hog the weights and mirrors grunting at themselves, but even that is rare.

Good luck!

dexter73 Sat 06-Oct-12 16:27:47

Nobody makes fun of anybody in our gym and I would be surprised if anyone did. We have all sorts of shapes,sizes and ages. I don't really take much notice of who else is there.

Februarytwotimes Sat 06-Oct-12 16:28:18

I don't notice anyone at the gym, I am too busy doing my own thing. I think that applies to just about everyone.

Littlefish Sat 06-Oct-12 16:28:32

I've lost 5 stone in the last 2 years and go to the gym once or twice a week. I'm still a size 16-18, so still got a long way to go in my desire for fitness and a healthy weight.

I can honestly say that I've never encountered any negativity at all. When I see people there who are the same size, or bigger than me, I think "excellent, well done for coming".

The only problem I have with going to the gym is that I never sweat, not even after an hour on the bike with my heart rate at 120 beats per minute. I get very very envious of anyone at the gym who gets really sweaty! I just go bright red and look like my head is going to explode. grin

multipoodles Sat 06-Oct-12 16:29:30

Encourage her all you can as honestly nobody will care. I visited a gym about 10 years ago and the reason I was happy to join was seeing 2 larger ladies working out and thinking this place is for me as it wasn't all skinny lycra glad ladies smile

ivykaty44 Sat 06-Oct-12 16:30:34

I go to the gym to work out and do my own thing - mostly I listen to music and gaze out the window.

I don't care who is in the gym or changing rooms with me as by the time I get to the changing rooms I am zoned out anyway!

It is my escape time for my mind.

bigTillyMint Sat 06-Oct-12 16:30:37

I think that no-one would bat an eyelid in my gym - people are all different shapes, sizes, ages and levels of fitness. We are all too busy trying to shift ourselves anyway!

I just think good on anyone who makes the effort, regardless of what size they are.

Mintyy Sat 06-Oct-12 16:30:42

I admire the very overweight people who I see exercising. Because as a moderately overweight person myself I understand how embarassing it is to be seen in gym gear/swimming costume, so I know that that person will have already got themselves over quite a mental hurdle before even stepping foot in the gym/pool. Good on you both!

Funnylittleturkishdelight Sat 06-Oct-12 16:31:18

It's hard to start, but as she starts getting the healthy body she wants, her fear will melt away! Starting is the hardest thing, seeing the results will make it easier and easier!

Galena Sat 06-Oct-12 16:31:47

I was a size 26 when I started going to the gym. Never had any comments. smile Good on her!

SkippyYourFriendEverTrue Sat 06-Oct-12 16:33:11

How are people supposed to get slim if fat people are not made welcome in the gym?

Agree with everyone here - no one will say anything. My gym is lovely, and full of people of all shapes and sizes.

Littlefish - I am so with you! I do an hour on the treadmill each time, going at my fastest speed, and I don't sweat!

MaryZed Sat 06-Oct-12 16:36:08

I agree with all of you - and interestingly I was listening to a programme on the radio today which was about a study done recently showing that fit, fat peoplle are much healthier than unfit thin people. So going to the gym (even if you do what I do and eat muffins afterwards) is obviously a good idea.

Do suggest she gets a really good sports bra though. As well as not knocking herself out and feeling embarrassed, it will stop her norks getting pains and aches [bitter]

onedev Sat 06-Oct-12 16:39:47

I was a size 18-20 when I first started going to the gym & no-one said a thing or looked at me funny, although I did feel self-conscious the first few times.

I managed to get down to a size 10 over about 9 months (& following Slimming World) & no-one batted an eyelid then either. I agree with all the others who say people don't notice as my experience proves that but I totally understand her nervousness as I felt exactly the same.

I hope you convince her to go as crossing the doors is actually the hardest part! Enjoy grin

Ephiny Sat 06-Oct-12 16:43:26

In my experience you see people of all ages and sizes and abilities in the gym. I can understand your friend feeling a bit self-conscious, but I really don't think it'll be the way she imagines.

Personally I was worried about using the weights/strength area, and thought I'd look ridiculous being a small woman, not a big muscle-bound man. It's not been an issue though. People just get on and do their own thing, I've never seen anyone being made fun of for any reason tbh.

It's not high school P.E.!

HarlettOScara Sat 06-Oct-12 16:45:07

I was about a size 26 when I started going to the gym...it's one of those quite posh ones too, mainly frequented by beautiful people who look like they don't need to be in a gym. I was a bit apprehensive like your friend but honestly, ive never felt self conscious or that anyone is staring or sniggering at me. A couple of other regulars have come up to me to congratulate me on my progress (I lost 6ish stone) in a supportive rather than patronising way. I've had a prolonged break due to pregnancy/SPD/newborn but I'm hopIng to get back into it soon to start shifting the baby weight.

NewNames Sat 06-Oct-12 16:47:03

Tell her not to worry. I am veh fat and no one has ever taken the piss out of me. She will be fine!

TidyGOLDDancer Sat 06-Oct-12 16:47:44

You are all very kind and I'll be showing your responses to my friend before we go on Monday.

I don't think she'll back out of going, she really wants to do this. She's made a lot of changes recently, including eating different things and I think she's in a really good state of mind to kick off exercising. As a lot of you have mentioned, it really is the first few times that are the hardest. I remember walking in there myself and feeling like I wanted to walk straight back out again. You really need to talk yourself into it in the beginning, but it does get easier.

Thank you everyone for the responses. I was worried about posting this because I didn't want to upset anyone with the phrasing, but I hope this is encouraging to others as well as my friend!

Littlefish Sat 06-Oct-12 16:48:36

Lollipop - have you got any idea why you don't sweat? I'm going to ask my GP next time I have to go and see her about something. I do worry a bit about overheating.

juneau Sat 06-Oct-12 16:48:47

If I saw a fat person in the gym I'd think 'Good for them - they're doing something about it'. Being fitter is a good thing whether you're fat, thin, young, old, whatever. But, to be honest, I'm far more interested in what I'm doing and the gym I go to is a council gym and no one goes there to see or be seen. Now the fancy gym I used to go to - that was a different matter - everyone was checking out everybody else!

Nancy66 Sat 06-Oct-12 16:48:59

I tend to exercise outdoors now but when I did go the gym it was:

head down
work out

I didn't give a shite about or pay any attention to anyone else.

PedanticPanda Sat 06-Oct-12 16:49:18

No I've never seen anyone getting made fun of in the gym. There's nothing for your friend to worry about smile

Lizzylou Sat 06-Oct-12 16:49:37

Totally agree with everyone on thread, ime noone bats an eyelid at anyone else.
Have never seen anyone mock or laugh at overweight people, not in the gym or in a class. There are some older, overweight ladies at spin class and they are really fit.

TidyGOLDDancer Sat 06-Oct-12 16:51:39

Juneau, this is a council run gym as well. It's got brilliant facilities. Lots of classes as well as the gym and swimming pool. I had a week long pass to the very expensive private 'health club' across town and I still prefer going to the cheap one. The staff are lovely and I really enjoy going.

BigBroomstickBIWI Sat 06-Oct-12 16:52:56

I think I could strip off naked and walk through the gym and no-one would pay a blind bit of notice!

Honestly, everyone is focused on their own thing, they really won't pay your friend any attention.

susiedaisy Sat 06-Oct-12 16:54:18

My local gym has all sorts of people, big, small, old, young, disabled, there's a right mix, most in old tee shirts and tracky bottoms and no one cares less, I don't feel at all bothered and I'm a big girl!smile your friend will be fine!

Littlefish I'm not too worried as when it's v. warm or I go in the gym's steam room, I do sweat. It's just very strange.

OP, just to say, you're being a fab friend - I joined my first proper gym with two mates and it made it so much easier as we'd go on, say the treadmill, and they'd motivate me, and we'd natter as we walked/ran. Was great and I do miss it now that I'm at a different gym.

Blu Sat 06-Oct-12 16:59:36

I clicked on this thread in total fear and horror that someone was posting a negative thread about fat people in the gym, in which case I would have given them a right earful!

I go to the gym, and assume that there will a fully representative range of all people, just like outside. There is a huge age range, late teens to pensioners, all shapes and sizes, all colours, all sorts of outfits, and I don't take much notice of anyone else or what they look like or what they are doing.

I have never found anyone being snotty about anything in a gym - everyone is there doing the same thing.

AliceHurled Sat 06-Oct-12 17:00:41

It totally depends on the gym. I've been to some where people are judgemental, others where they're not, so if you know this one is like the latter then it'll be fine. Mine is also like the latter.

Shodan Sat 06-Oct-12 17:01:03

I would love to be a non-sweaty person! Sadly I sweat enough for at least three people grin

OP- honestly, the only time I registered an overweight woman at my gym was because she was on the treadmill in front of me, running way faster and for way longer than me- I was so envious of her! envy

TidyGOLDDancer Sat 06-Oct-12 17:01:15

Thanks Lollipop. smile

Selfishly, I'm really excited about her coming! It'll be the healthiest girls night ever!

rhondajean Sat 06-Oct-12 17:03:16

My gym is small and like a little club and we mostly know and talk to each other. I think it's fabulous when I see people who are overweight in and working away. They are doing themselves so much good.

There's a woman just now who has already lost five stone at our gym. She still got a bit to go. I'm a bit overweight and I honestly have found it really inspiring to see her working so hard.

Both me and DH were quite heavy when we started going 5 years or so ago, he is now ripped and runs like a whippet, I'm - getting there weight wise and I'm pretty fit! Tell your friend do it - stick with it - and when it hurts, that's it working. grin

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Sat 06-Oct-12 17:04:01

I go to the gym often. I don't notice people in there other than to smile at them and wave a quick hello in response to somebody else.

I'd like to disabuse a notion that people are 'admiring' themselves in the mirrors. I too used to think this, but when I started working out with a personal trainer he told me that I need to keep looking in the mirror to check my 'form', that I was still doing the exercises properly - and he's right. It's easy to slip into bad habits, looking at yourself stops you from doing that because you can see at a glance.

I think your friend is very lucky to have a supportive buddy to go with; she'll enjoy herself and will find that nobody, absolutely nobody, is judging her. We're all there to do the same thing - get fit and healthy. That's it really. smile

Meglet Sat 06-Oct-12 17:13:03

The thing is with the gym everyone has the same goal regardless of size, ie; to get fitter.

Some people might need to lose weight or build muscle, but we're all in it together, adjusting the machines, checking our times, fiddling with our ipods etc.

I have been at the gym and not realised one of my friends is next to me as I'm too busy cracking on with my workout. And if I see an overweight person I think "good for them". We have lots of elderly people at our gym too, they are an inspiration.

RubyrooUK Sat 06-Oct-12 17:20:27

My thoughts in the gym:

"Oh god, I can't face the treadmill."
"I'm on, I'm achieving."
"I've done five minutes; is that enough?"
"...How does anyone run a marathon?.."
"Oh no, I've gone puce again."

...and so on. I've never noticed anyone else really. Largely because I am so keen to get it all over with and read my magazine on the exercise bike while leisurely cycling along and having 30min without my family interrupting me.

If I did see someone overweight using the gym, I'd assume they were there to get healthy like everyone else in there and that would be it. Your friend shouldn't worry - gyms are full of all sorts of people just getting on with it.

hinoki Sat 06-Oct-12 17:27:57

Whenever I see an overweight person person running, swimming, at the gym, doing any form of exercise, I would never dream of thinking anything other than "Good on you mate" - that's if it actually struck me as anything other than totally normal...

OatyBeatie Sat 06-Oct-12 17:30:56

Lots of overweight people in our gym and no idiotic comments or snideyness or anything. Everyone is just working with their own goals, and whether you are elite or obese or middling you are all in the same boat, just plugging away a bit out of your comfort zone to make an improvement.

I just admire everyone who is working hard, and I particularly admire anyone overweight who might be battling anxieties about other people's stupid prejudices.

I tend to notice people more who are fitter, smarter, more beautiful, etc., than me, so that I can nurse my own anxieties.

Primrose123 Sat 06-Oct-12 17:34:53

I know how she feels though. I am on the 'larger' side, and don't go to the gym often enough because I feel self-conscious. To be fair, it is all in my mind, no-one has ever laughed at me or stared at me, I just feel uncomfortable. It's much better if you're with a friend though. Good luck to your friend. smile

Tidy, if your showing this to your friend can I just say, hi Tidy's friend, you go girl! Seriously go and see how different you feel and look in a few weeks!

YouMayLogOut Sat 06-Oct-12 17:41:41

I couldn't care less what anyone else in the gym looks like, although if they're smiling I might say hello and smile back! I'm more interested in just getting the exercise done.

I am a larger person who has just started going to the gym (after reading Adventures of Diet girl which was inspirational) and took me a couple of sessions to feel comfortable, but soon realised no one was paying any attention to anyone else. I did notice one other larger woman and was so pleased she was there too as it made me feel much more at ease, so tell your friend she may be doing someone else a favour!

cq Sat 06-Oct-12 17:48:40

If I see a big person in the gym I just think 'Bloody good for you - you're doing something about it'.

TidyGOLDDancer Sat 06-Oct-12 17:52:08

This is the thread I will refer back to if anyone ever utters the words "MN is a nest of vipers"!

You lot are lovely, and I will make sure my friend hears every post.

Thank you so much.

BonnyDay Sat 06-Oct-12 17:52:59

oh god no everyone is really encouraging. SHe must NOT feel self conscious but she must have a good sports bra!!

blue2 Sat 06-Oct-12 17:58:51

I'm with MaryZed in that I heard once that fat(ter) fit people are in a MUCH better place that unfit skinny ones.

You tell her to "Go Girl!!"

TalkinPeace2 Sat 06-Oct-12 18:00:39

People will notice. Same as they notice all new people.
But nothing will be said or thought beyond "ooh, new person".
In my experience (of going to the gym most mornings for 13 years)
women are incredibly supportive of each other in gyms.

One of my swimming buddies has suspended her membership while she has treatment for breast cancer. In the communal changing room she felt able to ask other ladies about their mastectomies and lumpectomies and which doctors they had and all the things that you CANNOT talk about otherwise.

The only thing we snigger about at our gym are the young guys with BAD tattoos!

GhouliaYelps Sat 06-Oct-12 18:03:54

I don't really look around at the gym when I go. Just watch the TV or music channel.

lizbee156 Sat 06-Oct-12 18:11:23

When I was last at the gym a few years ago I might notice people, smile and say hello but otherwise I was concentrating/counting reps/trying to make myself keep going.
I was trying to get it done and get back to cake home.
If I saw anyone larger I would think good for you, keep at it.

MikeOxard Sat 06-Oct-12 18:31:48

Half the slim people she is worrying about making fun of her will have been fat themselves when they started going. Nobody will notice or care. On my first visit to the gym I fell off the treadmill, haha! The only person who laughed was me though, everyone else is either in the zone, too busy or too self conscious about what they're doing/looking like to worry about anyone else. Hope you have a fab time. If you go on the treadmill, increase and decrease the speed slowly and wait til the bloody thing stops before you try getting off!

hk78 Sat 06-Oct-12 18:39:53

Another one here who thought it would be like this, but it never was. I've been to both local council-run gyms and private ones that were quite swanky and never had any issues.

I think school p.e. lessons have a lot to answer for sadly.

WeAreEternal Sat 06-Oct-12 18:47:27

When ever I see 'fat' people in the gym I always think good for them and give them a reassuring smile.

at my biggest I was a size 20/22 and weighed 15 1/2 stone (I'm 5'4) I was desperately unhappy but was afraid to go outside and especially to the gym because I thought people would judge me.

Tell your friend that it is only painful the first time, after you realise that nobody else cares you suddenly wonder what you were worrying about.

I'm now a size 8 and I have never felt healthier.

panicnotanymore Sat 06-Oct-12 18:55:58

People who go to the gym tend to be the concerned with their own health and fitness and not there to judge others. I would only notice someone in the gym if they were doing something very anti social like making a lot of noise. Size wouldn't be on the radar.

Good for her, I hope she enjoys herself and you guys have fun.

QueenStromba Sat 06-Oct-12 19:17:21

If I even gave it a thought the thought would be "good for you". The only people I judge are people (of all sizes) who's entire shopping trolley is junk food and even then I just want to go over and beg them to eat some real food for the sake of their health.

GhostofMammaTJ Sat 06-Oct-12 19:21:13

I am larger than you were and have been to the gym. I have never experienced any negativity at all.

BigBroomstickBIWI Sat 06-Oct-12 19:26:31

Oh yes, QueenStromba - the temptation!

My embarrassing story:

Started back at the gym in February, after years of not going. Joined up with a personal trainer. One session with him, I'm on the rower. Trying really hard to beat my last time. So hard that I flew off the back of the seat blush

TidyGOLDDancer Sat 06-Oct-12 19:46:37

BIWI, I've done that on the treadmill. Someone called my name and of course when my head turned, my whole body did. Mortifying!

Seriously everyone, thank you so much for replying to me. I'm sure this will be reassuring to my friend and hopefully anyone else in a similar position wanting to start going to the gym. smile

FrillyMilly Sat 06-Oct-12 19:52:35

I haven't read all the replies but my experience of the gym is that it's similar to the tube. No one makes eye contact or even acknowledges anyone else is there. Even slim people have hang ups especially at the gym. About 1% of people look attractive covered in sweat slowly dying on a treadmill. When I first went post having a baby I was really self conscious but it wasn't so bad.

LittleMissFlustered Sat 06-Oct-12 20:08:04

In January I'm heading to the gym (financially impossible before then). I'm 32, 5 foot eight and fatter than jabba the hut >_< I'm hoping this thread will stick in my head as I am petrified!

Friend of Tidy, be inspired and enjoysmile

Nyancat Sat 06-Oct-12 20:09:45

The only people who are laughed at in my gym are the (generally v skinny) girls who come into the gym after work, put their makeup on before they go up to the gym and then faff about on the equipment for about 5 mins at a time before spending lots of time prancing about admiring themselves and flirting with the instructors!

They are the same girls who dander about the changing rooms naked and seem to spend a disproportionate amount of time massaging moisturiser into their boobs in front of the mirror!

Everyone else is just there trying to get fitter and personally when I see someone bigger I think good on you because most people who are regular gym goers were just starting out once.

TidyGOLDDancer Sat 06-Oct-12 20:11:06

I'm starting to wish I hadn't started this thread in Chat, as I don't really want it to disappear. People have said such nice and helpful things!

rhondajean Sat 06-Oct-12 20:13:56

Tidy report it and ask MNHQ to move it to sport and exercise, they are usually quite helpful.

Bubblegum78 Sat 06-Oct-12 20:15:20

I go to the gym 2-4 times a week, I have NEVER seen any large ladies/gents being laughed at.

I have lost 10kg since I started in May, trust me, it was well needed! I honestly didn't feel that people were laughing at me.

People DO look, mostly to assess the totty as they walk through the door, other than that it's a non issue.

It's generally accepted that larger peeps are there to lose weight and improve their physical/mental health, a lot are there on doctors orders (some gyms accept GP prescription) so who can knock that?

She is very brave and doing an amazing thing for herself so good for her!


PorkyandBess Sat 06-Oct-12 20:15:28

I go to a gym that has its fair share of poseurs.

But people are far more interested and judgy about the gym bunnies. By which I mean the full make up, spray tan, tiny shorts brigade - the perfect specimens.

No-one is looking at the fat ones, they are (thankfully) invisible.

moonstorm Sat 06-Oct-12 20:17:12

The ONLY time I notice anyone in the gym is down to clothing, not size. (Bra on show, when bending over; builder's bum on show; see through clothes etc. This is the same whether the person is big or small.

Good on your friend. smile

TidyGOLDDancer Sat 06-Oct-12 20:18:33

Thanks rhondajean, I will. smile

PorkyandBess Sat 06-Oct-12 20:18:45

...by which I mean, no-one is in the slightest bit interested..

BonnyDay Sat 06-Oct-12 20:19:14

Or not wicking clothing when people dripping onto machines

HelenMumsnet (MNHQ) Sat 06-Oct-12 20:49:52

Evening all. We're moving this thread to Sport and Exercise at the OP's request.

TidyGOLDDancer Sat 06-Oct-12 20:51:38

Thank you Helen. smile

BigBroomstickBIWI Sat 06-Oct-12 21:08:31

Acksherly, the only time I really judge is when women (and it's always women) sit on the bike reading a book/magazine/newspaper, pedalling really slowly. I wonder why they are there? They certainly aren't working out and definitely aren't breaking a sweat!

mayorquimby Sun 07-Oct-12 11:20:15

nobody gives a toss about anyone else in the gym and the only judging that goes on is for people who have shite gym ettiquette or act as though they are entitled to take up 2 pieces of equipment at once because their individual work-out is more important than someone elses (fair enough if you want to do circuit training, but don't think that this means everyone else is going to leave those dumb-bells lying on the floor unused because you will be using them in 90 seconds after you're finished with the equipment you're using now.)

Hell even the type of people who do judge fat people or views them negatively in day to day life will at least tend to have the attitude of "fair play for doing something about it" towards those who do start hitting the gym

TalkinPeace2 Sun 07-Oct-12 14:36:45

One of my gym buddies is a size 18 / 20
but she has naturally long hamstrings
so makes us skinnies look like crocks in yoga classes when she folds like cardboard :-)

Graciescotland Sun 07-Oct-12 14:41:25

I've never noticed anyone at the gym, aren't most gyms plug your headphones in and shut the world type places these days?

TidyGOLDDancer Tue 09-Oct-12 19:43:36

Hello to anyone still following, and wondering what happened.


We did it! My friend came with me, had a great time, we giggled and chatted our way through an hour and a half in the gym and she can't wait to go again!

So thank you everyone who replied, she read all your responses and says thank you too!

TalkinPeace2 Tue 09-Oct-12 20:38:19


BigBroomstickBIWI Tue 09-Oct-12 20:40:43

That's brilliant smile

HarlettOScara Tue 09-Oct-12 21:52:39

Excellent smile

Jenda Thu 11-Oct-12 20:52:01

Tidy, please tell your friend that I am in exactly the same position as her but after reading this thread I have been and looked around the local gym and am signing up. I felt sick walking in and feel even sicker at the thought of me being puffed out after 5 minutes of exercise surrounded by all those horrible fit runners! But at least we're there right? I would only have respect for someone else by size who was trying to get the weight off so I am going to get on with it! Wish her good luck from me.. and thanks to you for starting the thread smile

TalkinPeace2 Thu 11-Oct-12 21:06:04

go for it.
this morning at our gym somebody was bringing a lady in on a guest pass who started off looking terrified but seemed well chuffed later on -

Yay, well done Tidys friend grin I was v proud today as have had to change my size 18 trackie bottoms for a size 16, still wibble wobble badly though smile

rhondajean Thu 11-Oct-12 22:28:04

Well done all of you - keep it up.

TidyGOLDDancer Sun 14-Oct-12 13:45:26

Jenda, thank you for saying that, that's really very sweet of you. I was worried about starting the thread as I didn't want to offend anyone with the wording!

As I said upthread, I was nearly 19 stone when I started going to the gym and if I can do it, honestly anyone can. smile

Thank you everyone on the thread for being so helpful!

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