I'm feeling a bit hurt by this and wondering if I might be being petty...
I recently had a baby girl. In our office we all pay into a gift fund at a set point in the year and it is understood that this money is spent on presents for special birthdays, babies and retirement gifts.
About a month before I had my baby, another colleague had a little boy. Her present was discussed at breaktimes, emails were sent about it.
When I had my little girl, I expected to receive a similar gift. I have been working at the office longer than my colleague and am on the same pay grade as her.
I didn't receive a present and my little girl was born almost 9 weeks ago. The other girl was given her present the day before she went off on maternity leave.
I was hurt by this but didn't say anything. No-one has mentioned anything - it's as if i haven't had a baby. Now another colleague is expecting and her potential gift is being discussed at breaks (I was visiting with my daughter and my colleagues were discussing it in the office kitchen).
I don't really feel like contributing to the fund again (the time to contribute is coming up) but would this be incredibly petty of me? I don't feel I can explain why either...any advice? Am I being grabby?
Oh gosh that is incredibly hurtful. I completely understand you not wanting to contribute - I would feel exactly the same. I think in the end I would graciously contribute but not enter into conversations about what presents to buy in the future or offer to go buy them .
I met a colleague in the supermarket yesterday and we were talking about babies etc.
She asked what gift I has received for DD as she works part time and thought she had missed the giving of the present part.
When I told her I hadn't actually received anything, she looked very surprised and assured me that it had been spoken about/decided who would buy the gift, so she was confused about why we hadn't been given anything. She seemed quite about it.
So at least I know now that we weren't forgotten, but obviously things have gone a bit awry...!