People who turn up BANG on the start of a party

(101 Posts)
HellothisisJoanie Fri 16-Nov-12 17:16:49

please dont.

Chubfuddler Fri 16-Nov-12 17:28:39

She's got quite a twinkle in her eye. I reckon they're having more fun than sad sacks who are deliberately late because they're scared of looking punctual or whatever the problem is.

HogInABog Fri 16-Nov-12 17:29:23

You sent your friend away?! Ihad a friend turn up early for a party recently. I offered her a drink and enjoyed chatting to her before everyone else turned up. I just carried on with what I was doing. As she us my friend, she didn't mind.

HecatePropylaea Fri 16-Nov-12 17:30:00

You're not supposed to arrive at the time you've been invited to arrive at?

When did this start? Why did nobody tell me? What time are you supposed to arrive then? Is this a fixed time or does it differ between individuals? How do you know who wants you to arrive on time and who doesn't? and who wants you to arrive half an hour late and who wants you to arrive an hour late?

If I invite people for a certain time and they don't show up on time - I'd be pissed off. I hate lateness. If I started at 7 and nobody showed up by half past, I'd go bloody out!

Please don't tell me there's some weird latetoaparty etiquette and time stated doesn't mean time stated. People are hard enough to figure out as it is!

HellothisisJoanie Fri 16-Nov-12 17:30:19

well she looked at me and said " oh god im early"

aka bang on time

usualsuspect3 Fri 16-Nov-12 17:30:47

Do you live in the 1950s?

stubbornstains Fri 16-Nov-12 17:31:45

Have pity on the literal- minded FGS.

My oldest mate always does this. She has a touch of Asperger's (as have I).

We are both lower middle, mind...

I always turn up a bit early to give the host a hand setting up, but there again my friends like me so it's never been a problem grin

Loobylou222 Fri 16-Nov-12 17:32:22

Wow get the wine out and enjoy your party ffs, your lucky you have friends to invite if you tell tem to leave because they have the nerve to turn at the time you asked them too!
I would have left and not come back!

Blimey.....

Chubfuddler Fri 16-Nov-12 17:33:21

So when does the party actually start? Why put 7pm if you don't want people at 7pm? It's senseless.

HellothisisJoanie Fri 16-Nov-12 17:35:12

7 onwards. Obv a dinner party on time

FakeGingerbreadHouse Fri 16-Nov-12 17:36:37

I would be bang on time. In fact, I would arrive 10 minutes early then wait untill exactly the time I was invited to knock on the door.

I blame my upbringing, we were never allowed to be late for anything. Ever.

If you want people to arrive later invite them later. Easy!

PelvicFloorClenchReminder Fri 16-Nov-12 17:36:50

Awww I love Howard and Hilda!

I would never turn up early to a party though. It's just as rude to be early as it is to be late. Nothing wrong with being on time though. If you don't want people to turn up on time, why bother stating a time in the first place?

wonkylegs Fri 16-Nov-12 17:37:41

I personally hate lateness, I find it rude, as if your time is worth more than mine!
I'm usually on time, if it means I end up helping out to set up that's fine and absolutely to be expected.
Chill, have a glass of decent wine, relax & enjoy hanging out with friends.

CordeliaChase Fri 16-Nov-12 17:38:55

I get in a flap if I'm late sad I'm always the one helping t set the party up too, while the host finishes off getting ready.

stubbornstains Fri 16-Nov-12 17:40:23

Hecate After years of research, I reckon:

Invited to dinner: be 10-15mins late (this is because I'm never quite 100% ready on time when making dinner for people, and neither are many others; however, much later and they start to worry).

Average house party: be about an hour late unless the host is a really good friend and might need help setting up;

Parents' generation party: be on time;

Filthy squat rave: be about 3 hours late. At least.

I still screw up, frequently. There needs to be a Book.

HellothisisJoanie Fri 16-Nov-12 17:41:52

yes - give the host a break. You always underestimate the time it takes.

id be 15 m late for drinks and on time - ish for a DP.

Labootin Fri 16-Nov-12 17:43:20

If I deign to have a party I get caterers in

But then I'm not démodé I'm Dubai noooooveav riche.

N'est pas

ISeeSmallPeople Fri 16-Nov-12 17:44:09

I have friends who always turn up 4 hours late for anything including their godchild's christening

I change their invites now. If I want them to come for dinner I invite them to lunch smile

UptoapointLordCopper Fri 16-Nov-12 17:44:39

I only ever invite people I like to any parties I have. The earlier they come the better. Fancy turning them away at the door. shock

UptoapointLordCopper Fri 16-Nov-12 17:45:42

Iseesmallpeople I have friends who always got lost on the way here. grin Don't know what happens. And we've lived in the same place for years.

ISeeSmallPeople Fri 16-Nov-12 17:46:22

My parties used to go on for days. Turn up anytime between Friday & Sunday.

I'm old now.

ISeeSmallPeople Fri 16-Nov-12 17:47:03

Had your friends already started drinking?

Trills Fri 16-Nov-12 17:47:36

A dinner party - turn up on time.

A party party - turn up near the time, unless youa re the sort who likes to help out.

I like one or two people to arrive on time so that we are allowed to start on the party food/booze (my rule) but they have to be heppy to chop lemons or chat to me while I search for extra bottle openers.

HellothisisJoanie is in fact Margo Leadbetter. She needs to slip into a fresh kaftan before she'll let people crack into her Tio Pepe grin

I am always early, on time if I try really really hard not to0 be early. this is because I have anxiety and cant bear to be late. I hate being sat waiting for people to come as well, if I say seven that means I will be ready at 7, if you dont come till 7.30 I will be sat there getting anxious thinking you are not coming,

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