So, I was watching Real Housewives of New York (I'm on maternity leave with DC2, overdue and have sunk to new depths!) and one of the women was hosting an 'etiquette lunch' for her teenage daughter and her friends. She said that if the girls didn't like something they should take a little bit, push it around a lot and eat a lot of bread. Is it just me or is that really annoying and rude? This woman is writing a book on etiquette too!
The answer to this surely depends on the company and the event? In brief: If in an informal setting or with very familiar people it is acceptable to decline the dish or ask for a small portion. Rarely is it acceptable to say you don't like it.... Offer an excuse such as "looks lovely but fish just doesn't agree with me" etc If somewhere formal then accept the plate with grace and then eat around the offending item, don't play with it!!! Ever!!! When your plate is collected if asked 'was everything ok?' reply would be to compliment something else on the plate or saying "yes it was lovely but too generous a portion for me" or similar! Luckily my husband is a gannet.. We have perfected the art of switching plates when he has finished lol
i'm a very fussy eater but will taste everything on the plate when someone else has made it for me. if i really can't eat something i dont, but i always tell them the food was lovely but that it was more than i had space for.