But he doesn't. He doesnt feel like they matter to him at all, he doesn't ponder they might be or have any desire to find them. I, on the other hand, spend quite a lot of time wondering who they are. It bothers me hugely that my son could walk past his grandmother, grandfather or aunt (because I know my husband has an older sister, other than his adoptive family) and not know them. When my son is naughty he looks like one of my older brothers and when he's scared he looks so much like my younger brother. This has made me even more keen to meet them, or at least try, because I don't think genetic inheritance is worth nothing. I understand if he doesn't want to meet them, though when we've talked about it he doesn't say that, just that he doesn't care either way and so is not prepared to make any effort toward it happening. I think that might be him covering a fear of rejection but can't say that to him without causing offence. Would it be wrong for me to ask him to meet with his adoption agency and get his file?
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I want to know my adopted husband's (bio) family
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EllipticalEggs · 29/06/2016 11:48
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