Well actually it is the money, it's all to do with money, it's what drives a family apart. My sister has probably been on all forums to find out the best way to legally screw me over. If you want to know how then read on but firstly have a think about the human, emotional element. I, according to my sister was 'joined at the hip,' with my mum. We were very close and as my sister admitted she never really cared much for our mum so our closeness never really mattered much. Moving on to 3 years ago when our stepfather died she, I told my sister there was money in the pot. My mum was slowing slipping into dementia, great time to strike and strike she did. She and my aunt ousted me out, closed me out of the family by lying and had my mum change her will. I cant prove she did this under duress in fact I cant prove anything I say but I can say that I'm devastated and deeply hurt. It has changed my life, I cant believe the hurt they have inflicted. They,my aunt and sister changed my mums phone number so I can't call and now they have put her into a nursing home and apparently have me barred and my two adult kids from visiting. I've got no idea what I've/we've done to deserve this. My sister who has no money is now driving around in a new car £25,000 worth (second new car in 2 years) and just back from her 6th holiday abroad. In short the money is being spent and there's nothing I can do about it. I'm worried about my mothers wealth and her payments to stay in the care home. And because I'm human I hate that my sister is spending un-earned cash (she's never had a job in her life) and I'm left out of it. I can't even get a photo of my dad or a sentimental memoir. I've got no say in what will happen to my mum's house. My sister is using it as a second home at the moment and has changed the locks. Seems she can do what she likes and her close friend (our aunt) has been made POA.
It is beyond me how cruel they have been as through the years I've done nothing but help them when needed. I will admit that my sister has always been cool with me, she's just over a year older than me and probably wishes I'd never been born. But I am here and I hurt.
I have lovely, sucessful kids and a wonderful husband but that doesn't stop my heart from breaking. How do I deal with this huge emotional mountain? Doubt they will even tell me when my mum dies.
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It's not the money its the sibling hatred and turning my mum against me that hurts.
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doormat21 · 29/05/2015 20:56
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