Hello I'm new so please excuse my lack of using the correct abbreviations! I don't expect anyone to tell me what to do (although I would love to know what you would do in this situation) but I really can't talk to any of my friends or family about this.
In a nutshell:
I'm 33 my husband is 10 years older and we have been together 8 years, married 1.
We got married because we both want children. At least I thought we did.
I came off the pill 4 years ago and had unprotected sex since then, no baby. I went to the docs 8 months ago and they suggested we start to see if there are issues. I had blood tests, all OK. My husband just needs to do his "bit".
Trouble is he hasn't and when I ask him why he hasn't he says he hasn't had time. Nonsense. I've not nagged or pressured but I'm starting to feel like I'm being stringed along.
On top of all this he is a high functioning alcoholic - drinking 6-8 cans lager a day and more on weekends.
I made a fuss of the alcoho, thing before we got married saying He must try and cut down. He hasn't.
I wrote him a letter a few months ago (I know but if I try talking to him he says nothing, literally nothing) saying that I don't want to be older than 35 for my first child and if I'm not pregnant soon, I don't want children at all.
He will only have sex with me 1-2 a month.
If you're still here, thank you! My options are either stick with it and face the fact that we could be a childless couple, in which case I think I will end up resenting him. Or I cut my losses now and face the humiliation of a short marriage and uncertain future.
Thank you for listening. I'm not normally this miserable!
Hx
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hetty1980 · 24/10/2013 21:10
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