I have had a horrible couple of days and would love some neutral 3rd party advice as I am so conflicted. I found out on Sunday my husband is on a GPS social networking site which uses your position to find people geographically close to you to talk to. Within this site you can join certain groups so it can show you people with similar interests. This wasn't so much of a problem as I trusted my husband completely but the groups he has joined are over 30's singles, 20's and 30s singles, black singles, partyers, I love Latinos etc and all the people he has been talking to are single women. I have seen messages from at least 5 women where both the lady and my husband call each other sexy or cutie. we have been together for 6 years and have two children together but he has cheated on me twice before in the first 2 yrs of our relationship. I confronted him about this and he said he must have clicked on those groups by accident. When he realised I wasn't buying it he admitted he was in the wrong and was sorry. I only have proof he was making himself available to other women but he could very well have cheated physically for all I now know. He never wears his wedding ring but I hadn't thought anything of it until now. I feel so angry with him and I don't know what to do now. It completely blind sighted me as i thought we had perfect marriage and were very happy. How will I ever trust him again? I flip from feeling so angry and betrayed i want to hit him to feeling like i am over reacting and shouldnt ruin my childrens happy home. Should i get over it? Should I just leave?? What would you do???
That is entirely up to him, could he turn into someone that adores you and is prepared to wait for as many years as it takes for you to feel the same?
but you will never have full faith again, unless you have some sort of amnesia, clearly you were kidding yourself the first couple of times,
What would you do?
Give him a bag for him to pack, tell him to leave. But I'm fussy, I couldn't spend my life with someone who wasn't totally honest with me, I would feel as if I was selling myself short, you only get one life, so why waste it with someone who doesn't give a shit about you.
If one of your children was in a relationship with someone who was unfaithful to them a lot would you like it?
You are showing them that it is acceptable to let people treat them in this way.
Completely heartbreaking, you will have a lot grieving for the future you envisaged, what ever you decide to do.