I have an ethical dilemma where I cannot work out what to do. I have a couple who are good friends of mine, who have a teenage (16) son. Recently I've found out that he has been stealing from me.
I get on well with the boy in question, and have often asked him to feed my cats when I am away. Because of this he has a key to my house.
I noticed that money was going missing from a savings bottle I keep by my fireplace and set up a motion sensing camera to see what was happening (Might have been the cats ... you never know).
The bottom line is that I now have absolute proof that he is stealing from me. My estimate is about £400-£500 pounds over about 10-12 months.
Things I don't want to happen
a) The kids life is ruined
b) I lose my friends (They are good people)
Things I do want to happen
a) I want my money back
b) The kid realises at a very deep and emotional level that he has done the wrong thing.
Some background info....
- I was warned by someone else to watch out for this kid - He had (apparantly) stolen from then before but they didn't have proof (I couldn't believe it at the time).
- I don't have children myself.
- The kid is trying to enter the marines - I attended his ceremonial entry into the cadets and have encouraged him whereever I can.
So.....What do I do. Police? Parents? A swift physical retribution (I'm angry right now....!) I could really do with your advice.