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this is i think the first time i have posted in here but basically, my eldest childs father is in prison for a serious crime he wont get out in another 2 years, before he was sent to prison he only had contact that was supervised through his mum (i normally get on quite well with her and have had a close relationship in the past) because of domestic violence against me, but now im unsure if i want him to have any contact with my child again when he is released, normally every bone in my body screams to keep her away from him but having grown up without ever meeting my father in my mind he became some kind of hero character
constructive advice please
what would other people do??

I don't think anyone can properly advise you without knowing the people involved, but I am tempted to say don't let him within a million miles. He has hit you because he has insufficient control over himself. He doesn't sound like the sort of person who you would want your child anywhere near. Is the child old enough to have an opinion?

shes 5 so she will be 7 when hes out and has a decent enough relationship with him, shes unaware of what hes in prison for and unaware of the domestic violence