I have a job that, for the most part, I really enjoy (or used to enjoy) ? it?s interesting, challenging and in an area that I am passionate about. I work four days a week in theory. In practise, my day off is usually a mixture of trying to juggle children, housework, and work.
In the last few months, it?s become incredibly stressful ? a variety of reasons, primarily because we are short staffed, and the people we do have on the team don?t have the skills they need to do the job effectively (not their fault ? they are all great and hard working, it?s just that the current projects we?re working on are outside their comfort zone). It?s client based, so we?re very much at the mercy of what they want and expect, so can be quite unpredictable. Lots of conference calls scheduled for 7pm (when I?m meant to be doing bedtime), travelling overseas, short deadlines etc.
I manage a team of 12, and report in to my boss who is the Chief Executive. I like him a lot, I?ve always found him very reasonable, and he is aware that things are difficult at the moment.
I am finding the current work situation is affecting everything else ? my sleeping (am waking at 4 and lying awake worrying), my relationships with dh and the dcs, as I am either working, or snappy and distracted, and my ability to do anything else effectively (keep the house running smoothly, help dd with her homework, talk to my parents, see my friends etc etc). I should say that dh is terrific, I have no complaints at all there, and we also have extremely good child care, which makes a difference. But I feel as if I?m cracking up under the pressure, and everything is suffering ? I?m either working or thinking about work.
I think this is mostly my problem, rather than my company?s problem ? they recognise things aren?t sustainable and need to change and are trying to recruit new staff and so on. But that takes time. I could resign, in theory, but in reality I feel a lot of loyalty to my boss and to the team, and to the clients I?m working with, and me going would put them in an incredibly difficult position. We don?t need the money my job brings in ? it isn?t that well paid, particularly when you factor in child care ? so that?s not the problem.
I suppose I?m really interested in some coping strategies from other people in this position. How do you manage if you find yourself in a similar position? Is there anything practical I can do that will make a difference? Even just hearing from other people in the same position would be helpful.
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If you have a stressful job, how do you manage?
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snickersnack · 20/10/2009 15:57
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