So p***ed off with dp's work!

[charleepeters]

DP is a car valeter for a van and car hire company. he works from 6am to 1pm and 6am to 10pm on saturday. he likes his job and it suits us well as hes home at lunch time so he gets to spend time with ds. but his boss sometimes really pees me off they tell him hes doing over time at the last moment so all my bloomin plans get screwed up! Yeterday his boss swans in the office saying him and his wife have decided they want a holiday starting from today so dp's working untill 6pm on friday, which means he does a 12 hour shift and doesnt see ds all day and my plans have completly gone tits up. theres nothing i can dao about it i just wanted to rant they always do it sometimes they dont tell him untill the same day they need him for over time, i cant plan ahead for anything is sooooooooo annoying. so heres me venting.


AAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[throckenholt]

if it is overtime at short notice surely he can no - can't do it ? Surely there is no compulsion to do overtime - by definition it is in excess of normal requirements.

[charleepeters]

he can say know i suppose but his boss is prone to mod swings one minute he can be fine the next throwing things at the wall and dp isnt the sort of man who can easily say no to anyone let alone his boss. i dont mind him doing overtime as it helps with money situations its just i wish they would give him some notice. basiclly theres 5 employees including his boss and if any of them are taking there holiday dp is expected to work it sjust annoying they dont tell him untill the day beore and when he does have to work a full day it would be better if he started at 9 with the rest of them not his usual 6am!

[beansprout]

Do they think they are doing him some sort of favour by letting him start early when he actually does the same number of hours as everyone else? In that case they will assume they can call on him when they need something.

Totally agree that it is really, really not on, but, unfortunately, until he says he can't do it, they will just keep asking him.

[TracyK]

Its just one of those things - as long as its in the minority of the time that they land him in it then you have to learn to live with it - if the majority of the time he enjoys his work.
But if its the opposite way round then he has to look for something else.
We all have crappy bits of work we hate - would he be any better off anywhere else?

[charleepeters]

he goes in early because he opens up as he valets the vans ready to go in the mornig so he starts at 6am then the rest of them come in at 9am but when hes working all day i think it would be nice of them to say come in at 9 with the rest rather than working 6am-6pm. i know he doesnt like doing it but i think hes worried he will loose his job if he doesnt say yes. he soesnt often get asked he gets told hes working. i know i can chnage it its jsut bloody annoying i had loads of plans on friday which envolve him being here as i cant drive but now i cant do anything.

[charleepeters]

i know what you mean Tracy but he likes his work and its a great position as hes home at 1pm most days so he gets to spend time with our ds and hes home os we cand o things in the afternoon, like i say i cna change it as its a good job and he gets payed wel, for what he does its just annoyning

[TracyK]

Why don't you ask for driving lessons for your birthday or something. Don't be reliant on anyone else for your plans. Then you won't get frustrated when they go tits up?? You can just say 'have a nice day at work dear - I'm off to the beach/town' etc

[throckenholt]

sounds like his boss is a bully - and maybe your dh would do well to start looking around for something else.

[charleepeters]

we cant afford to run another car. even if i took him to work and used his car we cant afford to put me on his insurence as im calssed as a young driver, its not to bad on sunny days as i can walk most places, its just if i want to go somewhere far away, my mum kindly ofeten takes me but i dont like to ask her. sorry i moaning just wanted to rant!

[TracyK]

Just chill out and have a nice cup of coffee. My dh has the best job in the world (for him) and it suits me and ds 90% of the time. But it just takes 1 day (usually a Monday) when he's up and away at 5.30am - waking ds up at the same time, then not getting home till 8pm - and it pisses me off and i hate his job.
So I think we need to concentrate on the good aspects and ignore the bad (easier said than done) at least we have MN to rant on.
Have the lessons anyway - even though you can't run 2 cars - one day you will - and then you'll be prepared! or you may win a car in a competition - like my jammy friend did!