OK, so how did you get through redundancy?

[shimmy21]

sht sht sh*t

I love my job. It's fairly unique so I can't just go and get another one like it. It's local (I can walk there from home) and fits in with school hours. Now it's ending...maybe. Even if I hold on to my post we are being relocated 30 miles away.

How do you cope with the blow to your self esteem, loss of friends and major insecurity???

Already yelled at the kids and ds and it's only been 10 hours since I was told

Who's been through this. How do you cope with

[helsi]

what is it you do?

[shimmy21]

write educational material

[shimmy21]

bump, anyone?????

[Yorkiegirl]

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[shimmy21]

how did he cope Yorkie?

[aloha]

Don't panic. Every time a job has gone pear shaped for me something better has come along. It sounds Pollyanna-ish, but it is true. Could you go freelance? Start your own business doing what you do?
It's no reflection on you at all. Don't even start to think like that. Friends who are real friends will stay friends - mine have. The ones who drift away you won't miss anyway. Are you getting any kind of payoff?

[Yorkiegirl]

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[lavenderrr]

it happened to me when I was 21 and the blow was enormous because I was not expecting it, I didn't have a family so the worry was only about rent and stuff, but you know I think I was really croos for a few days and then the determination set in; I had a job 6 weeks later and it was at a time when there was a recession....what I am trying to say is that it is normal for it to hit you big style, however sometimes it can be a blessing in disguise and you can venture into something that would only ever have been inyour drwams for most of the time...are you definetely going to be made redundant then?

[shimmy21]

thanks Aloha. Yes, the freelance option is looking likely but to be honest I will really miss working in a small, close team more than the money (probably wont say that 6 months down the line when skint!)

I know the Pollyanna line is true but at the moment I want to punch my employer who keeps telling us how its all for the best and we'll actually thank them for it in the long run. NO it is not for the best for me personally. I am losing my dream job

[shimmy21]

I'm so pleased that your dh ended up well Yorkiegirl. It must have been as tough for you as it was for him.

And Lavenderr, no not definite (although the relocation is) but looks inevitable and at the very least I wont be working with the same people even if I'm one of the few lucky ones.

And no, the redundancy package is bl**dy awful (absolute legal minimum).

[tiddlypom]

I just wanted to send some sympathy - horrible for you. My dh was made redundant and stayed out of work for ages until a year ago. The anger and resentment are inevitable, yet ironically they don't help much in this situation, difficult to make the anger constructive. DH did retrain and get a job in a different field, and I'm sure you'll land on your feet too. Don't know what else to say to help, I'm afraid, hope others can.

[shimmy21]

thanks TP. I know that thousands of others have been through it too but just hearing about real people who have survived and come through the other side does help a lot.

[jampots]

i was made redundant out of the blue at new year (literally on the bank holiday by phone). Whilst it was out of hte blue I did feel that the boss was trying to push me out for at least a year before that so i guess it came as no real surprise IYKWIM.

I havent been able to find a job around school hours/term time since and he wont provide a reference so cant even temp. That said, i actually really like being at home at the moment

[sis]

I was made redundant last year and it was a real shock at first but The battle for extra money sort of invigorated me (they were offering statutory and I know others had received more in the past). In the end it was very amicable and I am now on a short term contract doing some very new stuff and some stuff that I did in my old job and am working part-time. I love working part-time, as it means I can be more active in the PTA but as for the rest of the job, I am going to give it six months to decide whether I like it or not as, at the moment, sometimes I love it and at other times I feel very indifferent about it.

Being made redundant gave me the opportunity to try something different and I know other mumsnetter have changed their careers as a result of redundancy - Pupuce springs to mind, she went from high-flying city job to becoming a doula!

I hope once you get over the shock, you too find something life enriching from the situation