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VictorianSqualor · 04/05/2008 15:07

As some of you know DP is currently in the final stages of joining the police force, but has recently had a number of people on his police forum complaining about how it effects the family and is now worried about it, especially as we have a new baby which, as we are all aware, can put strain on a relationship anyway.
So those of you whose families are police officers, how does it effect you? Is it as bad as some of these people are telling him or is it much the same as any job with its demands and expectations?
I'm aware his hours will be different but as a SAHM I don't see that being too much of an issue for me anyway, as childcare won't be needed, and with the two younger ones at home anyway he'll still be able to see them if he works wkends, DD (who would be at school) is ld enoguh to stay up later to see him, or am I in for a big shock?

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VictorianSqualor · 04/05/2008 15:20

Christmas was one thing we have discussed actually, we understand some years he'll have to work xmas day, do they have to work full-shifts on that day do you know?

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Saggarmakersbottomknocker · 04/05/2008 15:48

My dh is a firefighter VS. Different in many ways I know but similar in some. When our children were small the night shifts actually meant that we needed less in the way of childcare - I took them to school, he got in and went to bed and then got up to collect them whilst I was working. The downside was there was this 'swing door' parenting thing going on with us sometimes just meeting up on the doorstep and handing over the kids. His shifts have changed now as some wise guy said they weren't family friendly - fair enough but what we have now is worse

Re Christmas dh often managed to get the day off when the children were little - by changing shifts and working New Year for the single guys. Now he does Christmas as it seems only fair that the younger families get that time together. I'm not sure how flexible the police are with regards to casual swapping of shifts.

Did your dp get in at his first go? ds1 is 19 and has done the assessment centre and had an interview but just fell short. He's got to ring them in 6 months to 'reactivate' his application and hopefully be reinterviewed. They said they wouldn't send him right back to the paper stage though.

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VictorianSqualor · 04/05/2008 15:51

Hopefully yes, he did his A/C and passed first time, TVP only want 60% though, so wasn't as hard as some forces, he only has his fitness now, that's in a fortnight, then hopefully all being well, he'll just have to wait for his offer of appointment.

Good they don't have to go back to the papersift, I didn't know that, did he feel he had enough feedback on his A/C to do better next time?

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Saggarmakersbottomknocker · 04/05/2008 16:08

He did fab at A/C (for Gtr Man). Got 100% for the verbal section - he fell down at the panel interview on the diversity/racial awareness which I'm not surprised about as he hasn't had much experience; neither school or college had much diversity. Hopefully it's something he can address for next time.

Good luck to your DP for his next stage

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VictorianSqualor · 04/05/2008 16:14

Ah, I think they do it different at TVP, the interview part is at the A/C, there isn't a seperate interview, so DP just had app. form, A/C (and financial/security/counter terrorism vetting) and now fitness and medical then he's done.

Did he use the 'How to pass' book for his diversity? I think it helped DP a great deal on negative indicators as well as positive iyswim.

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BradfordMum · 13/05/2008 09:58

Hi - My DH has been a police man for 28 yrs, so PLEASE feel free to phone me for a chat. I'll send you my number if you'd like to.

Sally xx

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