ok folks - this is a bit of a rant and an offload so bear with me. i cant think of a workable solution to dp and I working and still having our dd 9mths in childcare. i have posted on these issues before but it all seems too much. some of you might be thinking - "well, what did she think she was getting into?" or - "stop bloody whinging". if so - you may well be right but it would be nice if anyone had any constructive ideas?
i have PND and find it hard to problem solve at the moment. wee things send me in a tailspin and am finding this hard to resolve.
the situation=
we live in glasgow. we have no family close by - mine in ireland and dp's all over. there is no chance of anyone being able to look after dd.
none of our friends are able to help out with childminding.
we both work full time. dp as a nurse close to home and, me as a development manager for a charity in edinburgh, which takes about 2 1/2 hours commute each way.
we have a nursery place for 3 days a week - found a really nice, small place with family atmosphere, open 8am - 6pm. it is right on my route into glasgow to catch coach to work.
there are no baby places at the 4 other nursies in the area but I do have our name down. 3 of those are local authority run and i have been told that i stand to next to zero chance of getting a place.
We cant do the nursery drop off / pick up due to work hours. i leave @ 5.30am and get home around 7.30pm - some nights it has been after 8.30 due to traffic / travel probs. DP works 6.45am - 7.15pm shifts but has been allowed to not work on a tues / wed so he can be at home with dd.
he gave up a good job with more money to change to this job in june so as he would finish his nurse training and have better longer term prospects and also be able to look after the baby as he works 4 days in a week. this was factored into him taking a massive pay cut.
I put in a request to work to be able to be based in glasgow 2 days a week. i could therefore drop dd off and collect her from nursery. i also asked to change my hours slightly to allow for this on a monday as well. this request has been turned down and we are now waiting to hear back from my appeal hearing.
we checked out how we could get her picked up / dropped off and found a sitter service but this would bring childcare to £100 a day. we cant afford this and i didnt want dd to be passed around from pillar to post with no guarantee of the same sitter at any time.
others on MN suggested getting a nanny and i was very kindly given a contact. this nanny is not available and through agencies - they think it will be difficult to get someone 2 days a week. i have registered with a nanny share site but theres not too many folks looking this in the east end of glasgow.
i have appts for next week with 2 nanny agencies. Yhe cost will still be around £100 / day due to hours and agency fees but dd would at least have the same person to care for her.
I can only financially manage this for the short term, hoping i can get a job in glasgow in the meantime. we cannt afford for me to not work as i am the main breadwiner. we could not get by on dps wages.
i have been looking for work in glasgow but there is none that I am experiened in or will pay the money we need to get by.
dp has looked into agency work. He has thought of doing nights while also looking after dd through the day. this can only be a very short term solution.
the nursery we have a place for has let me know today that they are being closed down and moving to another nursery within the same chain. this new nursery will now be treble the size of the with 22 baby places instead of 6 at the old one. the location is also twice the distance away and completely off my travel route. i will no longer be able to do the drop off and still make it to work within my hours.
I am due back next week but my GP has signed me off sick for 4 weeks due to the PND. it has got worse recently and i am finding it hard to cope.
Work will freak as my assistant who was doing my mat cover has resigned as he feels he can no longer work with my boss. this means the project will be unstaffed while i am on sick leave. i also hate having any sick leave on my record - especially anything to do with mental health while i am looking for a new job.
after that lengthy purge - is there a solution you can come up with that seems workable. If there is anyone who feels i am just a moaning minnie - i would really appreciate it if you wouldnt let me know.
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weeonion · 25/01/2008 22:15
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