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Help! He's invading my personal space!

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Bouncingturtle · 02/11/2007 12:17

Need some advice here, want a tactful way to deal with one of my staff.
He has this habit of standing very close to me when he is talking to me, and I feel very uncomfortable with it. I spoke with another staff member who says he is doing the same thing to her.
I don't think he is doing it consciously, but when he steps up to me I am forced to take a step back, so he ends up moving close to me again, and we end up doing some comical two-step.
Not sure if this a cultural thing (he is from the Czech republic), but want to broach it with him in a non-judgemental and friendly manner as he does make me and other female (and maybe male, not sure haven't asked) to give us some space! He's a really nice guy otherwise, which is why I don't think he realises what he is doing!
TIA

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OrmIrian · 02/11/2007 12:21

Tricky. I don't know how you'd broach this without offending him. Would it might be better coming from another man rather than you ...phrased as a friendly word of advice along the lines of 'women don't tend to like this'.Something like that?

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Tortington · 02/11/2007 12:33

tell him to step back becuase your eyes go fuzzy when people are too close and you go cockeyed and look like a chicken

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bethoo · 02/11/2007 12:41

make a joke of it and just come out with it. i had to the other day but the guy i work with is just a perv! at least your guy is jsut unaware of it. if yu say it is nothign personnal i ma sure he will understand. also say it when it is just you two as i am sure he does not want to be embarrassed in front of other people.

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Bouncingturtle · 02/11/2007 14:07

Hi thanks for your comments, I am his line manager, so it ought to come from me and I certainly wouldn't say anything in front of other people!
LOL at Custardo, I like that suggestion!
bethoo - no he definitely isn't a perv, I homestly don't think he is aware of it.
I'll just have a friendly chat with him about later.
Thanks again

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