Today my manager, normally very supportive (and I think this was his intention tbh) told me I needed to stop taking things to so personally and detach more.
The background is that nine months ago I was promoted to a management position. Career wise I was very happy. No extra money and no change in job title. As a result, I am not seen as a manager. I'm told that 'politically' they cannot allow me to have manager in my job title.
I'm subjected to low-level nastiness on an almost daily basis. One member of my team has made their reservations about my management clear and savaged me in her appraisal. I'm mostly ignored. I get no credit for any work I do and the head of service actively diminishes everything I do. I've instigated and implemented several massive projects, delivering on time and but the credit is given to others.
Many of my colleagues won't even respond to "hello" or "good morning".
Junior staff pick holes in my work and do everything they can to trip me up.
In this environment it's really difficult not to get down. I try not to show how I feel but my manager says I need to not take things personally.
But how do I do this when my colleagues are behaving like this? I'm looking for other jobs but I can't afford to take a job paying less than my (resasonably well paid) role that I actually enjoy.
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So exactly HOW do I "stop taking things so personally"
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Everyoneafter3 · 17/01/2017 22:14
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