I've had problems with my line manager at work for a few years now, and have finally been diagnosed with work related stress and depression and signed off for two weeks.
I have been reading lots of books and articles about bullying, and they have made me feel much better about the situation. Everything that has happened to me seems to be straight out of the textbook, and I felt really positive about my grievance being upheld and my being able to get back to work quickly. Or at least I did until the last book I read - 'Free Yourself from Workplace Bullying".
The last couple of chapters focus on Passive Aggressive behaviour. Someone once told me I could be a bit passive aggressive at times because I really don't like conflict, and now I'm really worried that the bullying situation at work is actually my own fault.
I know that I have been a bit hostile to my manager - but that's because he's been bullying me.
I know that I've spoken negatively about him to team mates and not been particularly respectful of his authority - but that's because he's a bully who abuses his power, and I've needed to use my support network to keep me going.
So can I ask, is it my fault? Is passive aggressive type behaviour an understandable response to bullying, or am I such a difficult employee that his actions are actually justifiable to manage me.
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GreenGoose21 · 06/11/2016 17:07
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