Hi everyone,
I'm hoping for some advice! Last week I interviewed for a great position at a new company, 10 minutes from home, great prospects, better pay, independent company, fab perks package, but the day after I interviewed I found out I'm pregnant - I received the job offer the day after. I know I don't need to disclose my pregnancy to an employer until much later, but is it frowned upon to start a new job pregnant? Or would it potentially get me in trouble?
So as not to drip feed, the backstory to getting a new job is that I had a MC at the beginning of July which I didn't cope very well with at the time. In my current job I was due to start a large training course which I felt I couldn't complete whilst struggling the way I was. I asked to defer a year and start it at the next intake to give me time to sort myself out. Long story short, I was told by my company either enrol on the course or you won't have a job anymore, all very stressful under the circs, I broke down and was signed off by my doctor as things were beginning to spiral. I had been very open with my manager about how I was struggling and had been 100% honest about what I could and couldn't cope with going forward and in the end, it was all twisted around by the senior management to make it seem like I was 'stalling' to allow myself time to get pregnant again so I wouldn't rack up more course fees in case I didn't come back. Which was not the case. In fact, past the initial frenzy of 'how do I fix this?? I'll try and get pregnant again' (which was my grief talking) I had no desire to try again any time soon.
After the MC my cycles were completely messed up and I had all the signs of not ovulating, so I was tracking my cycles and not DTD anywhere near what could have been fertile time. Only apparently I did it wrong, because on Thursday, boom, there was a positive test, which I only took to be able to put on the tracking app as negative in order to prove my cycle was still completely off course (was going to go to the dr with the evidence to check that this wasn't a problem!).
So being pregnant again so soon has it's own psychological challenges, but I don't feel comfortable working for my current company anymore, they made life much more difficult at a time where I really needed their support and I never thought things would have worked out this way.
Basically, I really want the new job, but can I take it knowing i'm pregnant? Albeit only 5 weeks pregnant?
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Isthisusernamefree · 16/10/2016 10:00
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