What kind of manager is this

(4 Posts)
franckiesmum Sun 22-May-16 13:10:26

I am due to complete a contract on Friday this week. Last Thursday, my manager asked me if I would consider staying on to fill in for another manager when they go on maternity leave in July. In the time between now and then, he asked if I would continue overseeing my existing project for 3 days a week and use the other two days to train ready to take on the new position, which would be a fixed-term role for 12 months rather than a daily rate. I told him I would do this and on that basis, turned down a second interview for another job as I don't want to mess anyone around.

The very next day, right in front of me, he discussed with another colleague about someone else he would like to interview for the same role. It was like I wasn't there, or that our discussion hadn't taken place.

I was so embarrassed and can't believe someone would deal with it in such a way showing absolutely no respect whatsoever for me.

He came to me with the offer, I didn't approach him.

He's set up a meeting with me tomorrow at 11am which I assume is to discuss the matter with me. I'm pleased I've had the weekend to calm down but I'm still really angry at his lack of professionalism and want him to know that without burning any bridges.

I'd appreciate your advice on how to deal with him. Thank you.

daisychain01 Mon 23-May-16 03:49:23

Hindsight is a wonderful thing, but I wouldn't have turned down a 2nd interview, because it is always good to increase your options. I know you were worried about messing people about but as you found out, it's so easy for situations to change.

As regards this manager, go along with an open mind, let him do all the talking, find out what he has in mind re interviewing other people, then quiz him on why he asked you to take on the role. Maybe he has been told by HR that he must cast the net wider. Give him the benefit of the doubt, to let him explain himself. Don't burn any bridges. If he needs you to go head to head against other interviewees, there's a good chance you'll get the role anyway.

Be positive, there is often a hidden side to these things. Agendas are often fluid in organisations!

franckiesmum Tue 24-May-16 21:15:54

Well he was true to form. He danced around the subject then right at the end of our meeting, I asked him if the role we discussed was still on the table. He muttered something, shrugged his shoulders and walked out. End of conversation.

I later found out his boss told him to look for someone experienced and my manager didn't even tell him he'd spoken to me about it.

End of the story is I leave on Friday for the job I turned down the interview for. Every cloud!

BlackSwan Thu 26-May-16 20:45:44

What a twat! Good for you - every cloud indeed!

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