I’m 29 this year and have had the same job within the public sector for the past 10 years. The job itself is completely unfulfilling but the benefits and pay are good for what I do. I was academic at school but after my A levels I struggled with university - I started 2 courses and left both within the first term. Part of my problem has always been that I never knew exactly what I wanted to do. My current job is the only ‘proper’ job I’ve ever had. I’ve worked in various roles across different departments (it’s a fairly large organisation) but haven’t progressed above my current grade (lowest rung of the ladder). There are limited opportunities for promotion/bad overall management and limited training. I also lack the confidence and drive to get myself noticed. I’ve done night classes and courses throughout the past 10 years but I’m very much a quitter when it comes to these things. I’m so unhappy at work at the moment and due to a massive change in the work we undertake my role has changed drastically. It’s causing me a great deal of stress and anxiety. I’m on the lookout for other jobs locally but my confidence is at an all time low and so far I haven’t been invited to interview for anything. I feel like I’ve been stuck in a rut for so long and as I’ve never actually worked anywhere else that I don’t have the ability/skill to actually do anything else. I don’t drive and I know this is also a factor that holds me back work wise – I’ve booked for lessons but I have a great deal of anxiety about driving also (have tried in the past). I was married last year and also have a mortgage. My husband has a good job but doesn’t earn enough to support me in higher education/training to gain some qualifications - I can’t afford to take a real cut in pay. We’re also considering starting a family and I really need to consider this in terms of the great maternity conditions and flexibility offered by my current employer. Can anyone out there offer any words of wisdom? I’m feeling like a failure and so stupid to have found myself with such low prospects at my age. All of my friends/family seem to really have it together by now and I’m embarrassed by my current position. I have the most supportive, lovely husband but I hate feeling that the pressure is always on him to be the main source of income. I know I am making his life miserable at the moment as I am always miserable. Any advice would be much appreciated.
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