Work in a team of 3. The other two get on very well together; collaborate on projects; consult each other. While they're not unfriendly towards me, they are marginalising me. Because of the nature of my job, I should be working particularly closely with one of these colleagues but she chooses to work alongside the other instead.
I don't know why any of this is - I have a lot of experience in the area and I'm good at the job. I also make every effort to be approachable, collegiate - and I positively like team work. The other two are younger, don't have kids and live locally. I have older children and have a commute. Maybe there's something in that. I don't know.
I do know that it hurts - really, I try very hard not to show it - but I'm human and it does hurt. No line manager to go to really - just someone who manages the whole department and I very much doubt would be of any practical help. I have thought of broaching it with my colleagues but fear they might be little defensive. I'm also embarrassed to admit that I feel sidelined and lonely in the job. But if it was going to make a material difference, well, I'd talk to them like a shot. We don't have regular team meetings and I'm thinking, though, of suggesting one if only to talk about projects and activities over the next few months.
If anyone has any experience - or advice - about being in a threesome at work, I'd be very pleased to hear!
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Team of 3 - sidelined - advice please!
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Morven11 · 15/02/2015 15:55
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