Boss unfair attitude to TOIL/ working when on annual leave

[Mimmi78]

Over Christmas I had annual leave booked for a period of just under 3 weeks to coincide with school / nursery closure. I work part time, 3 days a week in a professional financial role. Without going into detail, a work thing came up and I ended up working from home between 17-30 Dec to smooth over a problem and earned a third of my years annual required target for my Company in doing so. My boss implied the time I had worked would all be levelled after Xmas and said he would pay for the tickets (90!!) to a pantomime I missed taking the children to (not that this covers additional childcare cost and the cost of yet another pantomime in january!). Now I have come back to work and provided the statement from my bank for the cost and asked for two days of my annual leave back. He has refused both, saying my role expects working over and above and that I should have kept the unused pantomime tickets, even though he did not ask me to produce them until two weeks later. Its a good job and there are not that many roles out there for Part Time workers in the financial world, but this is part of a long history of me compromising and giving in. I wanted to teach my DD how to tie her shoe laces and read a clock and my DS to ride his trike. I want my kids time back more than the money but I am scared of rocking the boat and it would be easier if I just kept quiet and continued to be his doormat!

[Jinglebells99]

Do you not have proof of purchase of pantomime tickets? Online order / bank statement? For future reference, the theatre may have been willing to change your booking to one at a later date for a small cost, and then you wouldn't have lost the whole cost of the theatre. Did you have anything in writing/ emails to show your boss had agreed to pay theatre tickets and annual leave. I think in future, you need to have a paper trail of what you agree. It's a difficult one, but there are a lot of people who are prepared to go above and beyond for work at all times (my dh included) which makes others who may have a healthier work/life balance look bad.

[FeckTheMagicDragon]

Well you now know that it's a one way street with your boss. My advice is to nod and smile, stop coming in early or staying late. Drop him if he's on FB, switch your phone off if you are out of the office. Do your job, keep/improve your skills and brush up your cv.

Your boss is a deceitful shit.

[Mimmi78]

Update for all....he was fired not long after this