working full time, child in school without after school club, no childminders

(68 Posts)
StackALee Fri 11-Jul-14 17:00:06

How do you make it work?

PeterParkerSays Fri 11-Jul-14 17:09:23

Can you apply for flexible working to do some office work at home in the evening, or to have a shorter lunchbreak?

Girlwithnotattoos Fri 11-Jul-14 17:12:12

I'm in same boat dc's school don't have any after school clubs and finish at 3:15! The only way I cope is by using an after school club that pick up and they stay there until I collect about 5:30. I had to use the club as no local childminders collect from the school due to the fact that it's much smaller than others in the area.

LIZS Fri 11-Jul-14 17:12:18

have you asked at the school ? Sometimes there is an offsite after school club which collects. Are there really no cm 's on the area ?

Katisha Fri 11-Jul-14 17:13:49

How old is your child?

BillnTedsMostFeministAdventure Fri 11-Jul-14 17:14:47

Schools are supposed to signpost options on request - have they done that?

chickensandbees Fri 11-Jul-14 17:15:21

juggling, grandparents, working from home...its hard though.

Cm in a different area who can collect - thags what we do.
if desperate can you pick up and drop child off at cm before doing a bit more work??

StackALee Fri 11-Jul-14 21:26:30

I am considering options RE shorter days, shorter lunch etc

The council website has a tool to find child minders/wrap around care/school clubs who pick up from individual schools, there is one child minder listed and that is it

A Facebook acquaintance from the same area tells me she found it so impossible to find a childminder they went private instead (!)

The school has an after school club but it is not for reception class, only year 1&2 and above, also it finishes at 4.15 but that's irrelevant as I can't use it.

School finishes at three.

My son will be starting at 4 and 8 months in reception (full time)

He's currently in a private nursery and is 3 and a half.

We are in Wales in a city and an area where many families are on benefits so they don't use childcare.

I have one grandparent available but asking her to pick up every day would mean a more than ten mile round trip and I really can't expect this.

I work five miles from the school so picking up,and dropping off then picking would be difficult but an option I hadn't thought of so maybe I could do that, it would mean racing across town before 2.30 to get to him for three though.

Ideally my husband and I would both reduce hours on different days but it looks increasingly like this kind of request will be turned down. I don't even have a career as such, just a job. We pay £700+ in nursery fees at the mob soused to the knock on our wages but feel like the lack of childcare options once he is in school really means that we have few options.

Couldn't have a live in nanny or au pair as only in a two bedroom house. Maybe a nanny share?

Cripes. How do people manage Specially if they have more than one!?

Imsosorryalan Fri 11-Jul-14 21:32:03

Is there anyone at the nursery to help? I only say this because my dd will need childcare after she finishes nursery from sept. But luckily one of the key workers there has agreed to bring her home and look after her until 5pm. I guess she would be like a part time nanny.

Stillnoidea Fri 11-Jul-14 21:35:23

What about a live out nanny who just does the afternoon. if you divertissement locally you might be able to find someone...

Stillnoidea Fri 11-Jul-14 21:35:51

Should gave been 'advertise'..

drspouse Fri 11-Jul-14 21:43:55

Are there any "babysitters" advertising on childcare.co.uk or similar? They could take your DC home or even maybe to your place of work if not too far?
Is there a local university campus? This might be a good student job.

NickNacks Fri 11-Jul-14 21:49:21

So if he doesn't start school for another 14 months I would check again for CMs. And call the LA because not all cm like to be listed on the internet and a new one might register in the meantime.

StackALee Fri 11-Jul-14 22:29:01

No one from the nursery could help unless they gave up their job. The nursery is private and five miles from the school. I need childcare from 3pm and I think the nursery workers work until 6pm.

I honesty would not want to give a babysitter responsibility for my son for three hours a day, are they crb checked, do they have childcare qualifications? Do people really do this?

I am working rather in advance but only because if we do need to do a flexible working request it needs to be three months before I need it and also I will have to apply for schools in the next few months so need an idea of what is likely to happen re different schools.

Will look into nannies, are they expensive? We pay £8000 a year in childcare already (drop in the ocean for some but we only have below average salaries) so are no strangers to the cost I just stupidly thought starting school would mean less in childcare costs.

StackALee Fri 11-Jul-14 22:30:51

Also, would a student be reliably free from half two every day of the week?

EurotrashGirl Fri 11-Jul-14 22:42:01

Yes, many university students would be free during these hours.

StackALee Fri 11-Jul-14 22:44:50

But would you really hand over a five year old to a student for three hours a day? No disrespect but no way would I have handed a five year old to me when I was a student (I had lectures anyway so wouldn't have had the chance to do it). One reason I feel a bit iffy about child minder is the lack of accountability so a student would not appeal to me.

EurotrashGirl Fri 11-Jul-14 22:52:59

I would, but I'm not the one making the decision. You seem a bit stuck for options and I personally think its an option worth exploring. Most au pairs are late teens/early twenties.

WipsGlitter Fri 11-Jul-14 22:56:13

Does his current nursery not do pick ups?

StackALee Fri 11-Jul-14 22:56:31

Are au pairs regulated in any Way or can a student just pronounce themselves as an au pair and charge for childcare? Isn't it weird that you can't pay members of your own family or friends for childcare unless they are ofstead regulated (I think?) but you can just ask a random student to be your au pair? Maybe I am getting confused?

StackALee Fri 11-Jul-14 22:59:10

His current (private nursery) is five miles away from the school in a busy city. They stop taking kids at five,mwhen they legally have to go to school.

Maybe I am misunderstanding but I didn't think a nursery would dash about collecting kids from different schools to bring them to the nursery they left to go to school?

I would have cheerfully handed over a 5 year old to my student self, but then I was very experienced in childcare (younger brother 9 years younger) babysitting from 13 (yeah the 70s) worked in council playgroups as a playleader.

Lots of students have experience of children. It would be no different to an au pair, no language issues, no living with them and a five year old is verbal enough to tell you if there are issues.

If someone cares for your child in your own home they do not have to be qualified or regulated.

See the concept of au pair, and of nanny.

You can pay relatives to care for your children in their home setting without regulation.

StackALee Fri 11-Jul-14 23:02:33

Ok, but once the five year old has managed to verbalise those issues - those 'issues' have already happened. Do I want to take that risk? I feel funny enough about getting a child minder as it is!

Am I just odd or would most people be happy to get their child care done this way?

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