Hi all! Am new to mumsnet, pregnant for the first time - 12 weeks. Does anyone have any advice on how to handle a female boss who is behaving in a particularly challenging and hostile way regarding my pregnancy?
Unfortunately she is our HR / Legal Counsel within the business so I really have nowhere to turn right now!
Our pregnancy has been slightly compromised, resulting in a number of maternity and hospital appointments which meant I had to tell her about the pregnancy before i really wanted to.
Her instant reaction was to tell me that i am ‘not sick’ i am ‘pregnant’ – and that my attendance is not expected to dip (i have been employed by this company for over four years and have never taken any more than 5 or 6 days sick a year – ever!).
Upon producing all letters and documents as requested she told me that ‘an appointment starting at 12:00 means you can be back at work by 14:00’. I tried to explain that this is the NHS and things may take longer, etc. She said ‘they had better not’, spun on her heel and walked away.
We had further issues yesterday at the hospital meaning that what was supposed to be a quick appointment became protracted by more tests. Because this happened on the spot i do not have supporting letters and she is being incredibly unpleasant about it. This morning she started talking – VERY LOUDLY – re my pregnancy in our open plan office when this is actually something i wish to remain private. She has not asked re my wellbeing or the babies, or even how we are doing. She sneers and is trying to make me feel as awful as possible for wanting to attend these appointments. She can see that I am exhausted, stressed and worried for the health of my baby and almost seems to be enjoying it!!
The complications within the pregnancy are making things tough enough and right now i am torn between bawling my eyes out with frustration and smacking her teeth down her throat (pregnancy hormones!!)
Has anyone experienced, or is experiencing a similar issue, and what are the best ways to handle this? I will be working here until the end of May and I really don’t think I can cope with her nasty attitude for another 4 months! She is in her 40s and has chosen not to have children.
Thanks so much! x
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KBruin · 22/01/2014 15:43
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