I work in a small department within a larger organisation. There are only 3 of us but a large part of our work involves liaising with another department where there are about 20 staff.
This larger department have arranged Christmas party night out at a swanky restaurant and I've just found out that our department has been invited to join them. No, sorry, scrap that - what I actually found out is that my two work colleagues have been invited, and not me! I found out because one of the staff from the larger department is a very good friend of mine and mentioned the party to me today, under the impression I was also invited. When I told them I knew nothing about it, they were really embarrassed - bless 'em.
I'm absolutely gutted because a) I've worked there more than a decade (the other two less than a year), b) I used to work in the other department and have a close working relationship with many of them (or at least I thought) and c) I'm the only one out of the three of us who takes work home, comes in on days off and doesn't sit there chatting/playing on my phone/internet browsing all day long (okay, that one's personal and probably sounds a bit bitchy but it's true!!!).
Upshot is my very good friend has questioned my omission from the guest list. Lots of embarrassed faces and quick changes of subject. My friend thinks I may get an email tomorrow inviting me along.
Question is, what do I do? Whilst I would dearly love to go and spend time with my work colleagues, I don't want to be an afterthought. Part of me thinks the other two got invited because they're pretty young 20-something's, whereas I'm a 40-year-old divorced mum (or is that paranoia?!?). Do I accept the invitation graciously, smile sweetly and politely decline (even though I want to go?), or decline the invitation and let them know I'm unhappy about being left out?
I really don't want to go running to HR screaming 'It's SO unfair" but surely it's discrimination of some kind?
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Christmas party - what should I do?
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Prforone · 24/10/2013 21:14
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